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Potty training rewards

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Muminamannsworld · 31/07/2017 08:43

Hi all I'm in need of some advice please. My son age 3 has a reward jar which he is given a pasta piece to pop in each time he does a wee or or poo in the toilet. This works pretty well but he still has accidents.

His most recent agreed reward for filling it up is to go to legoland (it takes a long time to fill up and we had planned to take him there anyway).
We are due to go Wednesday as my husband is on holiday. We haven't bought the tickets yet. Recently he has been having more and more accidents. He has already earned the Lego trip because he filled it up but between then and now he had been having more and more accidents.
He has also started acting up more.
We have a 7 week old baby and I can't help but feel this is a contributing factor.
So do we cancel the trip and not reward his behaviour or do we go and make it clear what he is being rewarded for?
Or should we ask him to achieve something between now and then so he thinks he's being rewarded for that.

I don't want to break my promise but I don't like the way he has been behaving.
Any advice please!?!

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Notinyournelly · 31/07/2017 08:59

No don't cancel that would be unfair and he would lose trust in you saying that if he achieves something he will get a reward because he did fill the jar.
It's totally normal for them to seem to go backwards in potty training. And it's totally possible that it is for attention.
Just try to relax about it. When he has an accident say whoops let's try harder next time. And when he does it in the loo do a silly over excited dance and praise him.
Good luck.

Tessa84 · 31/07/2017 14:17

Agree with @notinyournelly, don't cancel! He earned it!! He might be unsettled too with the new baby, maybe a bit of attention issues, or just the normal drawbacks of potty training!

I'd say keep the praise up for when he manages, and mention how well he did to earn the the price!

Also, maybe something has changed in his routine that is making it harder.l for him to notice/remember?! Maybe keeping an eye on when the accidents happen could give you a clue as to why?!

Good luck! And enjoy legoland Smile

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