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Feeling left out

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loulocket · 30/07/2017 17:21

This probably sounds awful and selfish and not very... well... adult!
I am a stay at home mum to a 20 month old daughter.
We have a good relationship although recently it's all about daddy, which I can handle and is nice to see. This has extended to my mum and mother in law and has left me feeling pretty... not sure of word... hacked off?!??
I feel like I am the one who is "raising her" and having all the tantrums and upset and yet the affection and "love" is expressed to my husband and our mums. I pretty much get ignored by her and I can't it appears make her laugh/giggle like they do.... I feel totally silly feeling like this and I also know that she is the child and I am the adult so it's not like I should feel like this!
I suppose what I am asking is not for judgement but to know are these abnormal thoughts or do others sometimes feel like this too?
I hate myself but get so jealous, why don't I get those "rewards" like they do??

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Bubblesoup · 31/07/2017 14:30

I think that's totally normal for you to feel like that! Don't worry! You're only human after all and a relationship is a two way thing, even with a toddler. Just try and remind yourself that you are her go-to person when she's hurt or needs something. She's just playing wuth relationships which is a great thing. But you're always the one she really needs! I've felt the same briefly and it passes!

loulocket · 01/08/2017 21:11

Thank you, that does reassure me! Xx

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