What do I feel like no-one likes my child?

[Mum2ason]

Not sure if I've just got myself in a state for no reason but I feel my child has no friends. He rarely gets invited to other children's houses and never to parties. He is an only child and is 9. He's had parties and children will come so obviously he has some friends. I've asked parents for their numbers so we can meet up but they never reply. He is so desperate to make friends that he gets over-excited and annoys the other children so they won't play with him. Is it my fault? Should I take him to more social events where he can meet new children? Is it because the parents don't like me? Or am I just thinking too much into it and he will make stronger friends as he gets older? Any advice would be great. Thanks x

Start by making an appointment with his teacher. Asking them about how he socialises at school will give you a better picture.

When you say he gets over excited what do you mean?

Could you look into child events in your area, like outdoor play or clubs like football or martial arts xx

By over excited perhaps I should have said over water and he already goes football club.

Over eager not water!!

My daughter was exactly the same in primary school. At one point everyone was being invited to birthday parties except her. Was heartbreaking. She did have one really good friend tho so that obviously helped. Now she's in secondary school and has a great group of friends who are all interested in the same things. I know it's horrible to see but it may be a case of waiting until he's in secondary school. In the meantime just try and do things with him yourself, my daughter always loved mummy daughter time even at an older age. Now she's too busy with her friends to want it lol

My daughter is exactly the same. It's horrid. Very occasional party invite, never tea or anything. She is bright, advanced, and ends up trying to control things when she plays with others, as she is so desperate to make it all work. She doesn't seem to hear their unhappiness or dissent. She is heartbroken by all this. She feels so lonely. I have tried discussing it so many times with her, and feel that I may be doing more harm than good. I am ready to try and get her to see "someone" ( who? Councillor? Therapist?) to try and help her, but also afraid of making it worse. I was very similar, and was equally mistified. I have no idea how to help, even having been through it. I have good friends now, but I will never forget the feelings. It does get better, but I would love to make this process quicker.

Hi would love an update from all who commented on how your children are now. I’m going through something similar. Many thanks

@Petals1973 it might be better to start your own thread. The OP's child will be halfway through High School by now.