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My 2 year old son hates me!

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user1499454337 · 07/07/2017 20:14

Hi every one, first mumsnet post... Ever! I joined for the sole reason that I need some help and advice. My 20mo son has always preferred daddy, daddy is more fun, daddy doesn't have to dress him when he doesn't want to be dressed or change his nappy when he doesn't want to be changed or stop him playing when it's time to eat breakfast, lunch or dinner. We have to run to quite a tight schedule as my fiancé and I both work full time, so each morning is quite regimented, and I feel like my son resents me for this. In the last week he acts like he's absolutely traumatised around me. Screaming until he is sick, sits in the corner of the room and stares at the wall when I am around and generally does everything to avoid eye contact/interaction with me. It's absolutely heartbreaking. Has any one else experienced this? Does it pass? It seems like longer than a "phase" and almost like it's been building up to this over the last 6 months. We've tried to swap things up and I do more of the "fun stuff" but he just cries and screams for daddy 💔

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InDubiousBattle · 07/07/2017 21:45

Daddy needs to start doing some of the telling off, dressing and nappy changing.

I think it's common for toddlers to have a 'favourite' at some point. At the moment my dd can't get enough of daddy. How is he when your partner isn't there and it's just the two of you?

user1499454337 · 08/07/2017 08:39

He just sulks, he is better than when we are both there but at the minute it's so extreme he's refusing to eat or drink anything when I give it to him. Shock

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Pam0077 · 08/07/2017 21:06

Hi I just wanted to give some reassurance, as I know how awful this can be as I have been there too and it's heartbreaking as you say. I've posted on here many times about the same thing, my DS is now 2.4 yrs and although he still plays favourites from time to time, things have much improved. From about 12months old to just before he turned 2yrs he wanted anyone but me. He even cried when I collected him from nursery as he wanted his keyworker! On one occasion I just sat in the car and sobbed. This is just another one of those awful phases but I can assure you it's nothing to do with you as a mum I promise. My DS would cry for Daddy, Grandad and I felt awful never for me. Things have changed a lot, so be reassured. Of course he still has moments of wanting Daddy over me, and then the following week it will be vice versa! Things little quirky phases aren't pleasant but honestly it isn't your fault. X

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