He's been a handful since birth but since age 2.5 it's steadily got worse. I have been telling myself it's just tiredness but I'm starting to wonder... he just doesn't seem to cope with his emotions at all. Recently he's been physically lashing out at me and his 11 month old sister. He holds in his wee to the point of wetting himself pretty often and will happily soil himself if he can't be bothered to go to the loo (under specific circumstances - when his sis came along he did it a lot for attention but I think we're past that). He's also started chewing all sorts of things (copying baby or anxiety?!) Suddenly he hates loud noises (motorbikes, me shouting at him when I'm all out of 'gentle' techniques). If things don't go his way he gets reeeeeallly upset. Sometimes he refuses to communicate and/or just screams. How do you know what is normal?? His nursery did get the SENCO in. Both myself and his Dad are quite clever... I think he is too and I wonder if this is it? I've always jokingly said his Dad must be on the autistic spectrum but he says he's just an engineer with minimal social skills... I have spoken to HV re behaviour and therefore started 'time out'. He gives not one fck most of the time. Some days I feel pretty low at the moment. sigh*