manners from play date guests

[jakubowskiannab]

I feel several of my DS friends seem to have really bad/ no manners when they come over to play....but now because it has happened a few times, I think maybe I have too high expectations!!
My Ds is 7. Is this too young for children to say please and thank you? (or answer back to an adult?)
I don't know if I'm being unrealistic!

I find this too. It REALLY gets on my nerves. I try and ignore it, but it's very hard. I find myself saying "What do you say?" which I know I shouldn't but it's automatic, it just sneaks out!

No way is 7 too young. My almost 2 year old will say please quite frequently . My 3.5 year old is very reliable with please and thank you.

My 3 year old readily says please and thank you too. I may get flamed for this but...
I feel that a lot of parents don't teach these basic manners anymore, likewise they'd rather shoot themselves in the head than apologise to someone. I think parents see manners as a sign of weakness and so don't teach them. These days kids are taught to be "the best" and to be "winners" and not to be kind and thoughtful. Not all but a lot...

I don't know about that sow me and my friends with toddlers all seem to spend half our lives going 'what's the magic word?'and 'what do you say?'! Both of mine are pretty good but it's come with quite a lot of trainingnagging.

I wouldn't at all worry about this. Just let your children enjoy the playdate as long as they're not thrashing your house or anything. Focus on teaching your own children manners and don't stress over other children. Most people turn out pretty ok in the end.

I discuss it afterwards with my DD...I'll mention it...so she can notice it too.