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12 year old stepson with possible social issues?

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babyface · 30/06/2017 13:08

Looking for advice to help dss. He has been very unhappy at school for the last year to the point of refusing to go. He has been living at his mom's during the week and coming to mine and dps every other weekend and in school holidays with his 9 yr old brother but in September we are going to try him at school here (1 hour away from his moms) we want to give him every opportunity to settle in and make friends here as he finds it difficult (unlike his brother). My kids aged 14 and adult, find him quite difficult too. He can get very hyper and does random things like repeating one sentence over and over. He is great 1 on 1 with adults, makes lots of eye contact, is very imaginative but hides away on his phone in social situations - or goes to the other extreme and is very loud and annoying to the other kids. He also struggles with reading. He has a short attention span with extra curricular activities and doesn't stick them out - although I'm hoping living with us in an area where there is a lot more going on (his mom's place is out in the sticks), We can find something to give him more confidence outside of school. Any advice on why he might find things so much harder than the other kids and how to help him would be great ☺

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DD0314 · 30/06/2017 20:20

Explain all this to the school that he starts, they can put things in place to help him.
Extra curricular clubs as you mentioned are perfect for kids that struggle but tell him once he starts he must stick to it for a term at least. If he's particularly down get him referred to CAMHS. Has he been checked out for any medical issue (ADHD maybe?). Keep doing what it sounds like you're already doing and talking to him.
Good luck, he's lucky to have such a caring stepmum.

babyface · 02/07/2017 10:21

Thanks for the good advice :-)

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