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Struggling with the kids!

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alidastegir · 18/06/2017 04:35

Hi everyone. I'm new here but I'm so desperate for some help and advice. Long story cut short I remarried recently a few months ago and have 2 children from my first marriage. My children didn't get to know their biological father as he left while they were very young and there was never any contact. It did affect the kids quite a bit not having a dad around and my daughter was always very emotional. She met my current partner over a year ago and absolutely loves him. They hit it off the kids and my partner and well we got married. It was a huge change as I moved from London to Cardiff. The kids left their whole lives behind and my family too whom they were very close to. The changes were hard to adjust to for the kids especially. My mother in law is difficult and they don't exactly feel the same love. My husband had a son from his previous marriage and obviously it causes differences. We all live together my husband and I with the kids and my in laws, 2 brother in laws and a sister in law. So its a close knit family. Things have been getting really hard. My children are unhappy. I have a lot of issues with my mother in law. It's difficult . It really is. I've ended back in London staying at my dads house as my daughters been so ill constantly. Now. I'm. Stuck. Kids don't want to go back. My husband and I are on very sensitive grounds. And I'm. Losing it.. Not sure how to deal with it and what to say or do. Daughter insists she's not leaving London and my husband has told me. To stay as well.. How will I. Cope? My husband won't move either. Daughters behaviour is erratic. Always moody and angry. And upset. Sons starting to as well. Help!

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BloodWorries · 19/06/2017 17:13

How old are the children?

It sounds horrible. Kids have gone from presumably a loving stable home with just you, with family close by who they are very close to... to having to share you with a step dad, a step sibling and also having to live with 5 (if I counted correctly) addition adults in a new environment.
It's not even like you are all making a fresh start together, as everyone else will have their own routines and have a way of how everything works and the kids (and you) have to slot it?
Sounds like you tried it and it didn't work. If 'D'H isn't willing to move out with you then nothing much you can do. Your DC come first, and it's making your daughter physically ill and deeply upset, and DS isn't far behind. Don't go back.

alidastegir · 19/06/2017 17:23

Children are 9 and 7. I have no idea how to deal with it only because I've literally left everything my home is gone too as the tenancy has now ended. I feel like a fool and have no idea how to make the situation better 💔

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