2.8yo - hitting and tantrums getting worse

[mellongoose]

Please help!

DD is a bright and happy child. She's 2 so I expected some tantrums but last night was beyond any expectations.

When she doesn't get her own way, her beautiful face changes, she looks right at me and hits me. She always gets a firm telling off but we move on quickly and it gets forgotten...until the next time. Am usually able to distract her before a tantrum begins. Maybe in the car it is worse because I'm driving.

Last night she didn't want to go to sleep. She was overtired after a full week. But she screamed and cried for almost 2 hours. She's still in her cotbed- I had put the bars back on after advice on MN to help her feel secure at bed time. (Which worked btw) DH and I would go in periodically for cuddles etc. One time whilst I had her in a cuddle she got both her hands and hit me round both sides of my head

I put her down, walked out of the room and tried not to cry myself and let Daddy try. We are at a loss. My nieces and nephews never did this. So both DSis' at a loss to advise.

I love her with all my heart. I feel like a crap mum.

Bumping (before I get bumped again)!

Hi hun, you're not alone! Although my little boy is a little different to your little girl, he doesn't hit us but does hit out at other kids which is exhausting! He's 3 now and although I can help him see now that hitting (or bitting 🙈) other children is wrong he still trys it when someone annoys him or he dosnt get his own way. People keep telling me it's a phase and he'll outgrow it but that doesn't help me now does it lol I've been so stressed with him in the past that he's had me sobbing. Maybe not the advice you were after but just wanted to tell you you're not alone.

It helps, user, so thank you!

She knows it's wrong but gets so overwhelmed in a split second and cannot help herself!! WHACK

This is my little boy too, before play groups I always give him a pep talk 'no hitting, sharing, taking turns' ect but as soon as something happens all that goes out the window and he sees red.