I'm in tears. Again. Because of DS' behaviour. He was at an after school club (his first time going) this afternoon and I got called half way through to come and collect him as he had called two children assholes. I have no doubt this wasn't the only bad behaviours from him.
He has been a nightmare since he started school in P1. He is aggressive, and angry and has hurt other children. Hardly a week goes by when I don't get called out of work to come and collect him due to him hurting someone or at very least get informed that something happened in school when I collect him.
He has loads of issues going on that we are at various stages of investigation/intervention.
Background is that he was late walking and late talking. He had speech therapy from 2.5 until 6.5 when he was discharged from SALT although he still has problems with speech (and gets mocked for it in school) he is also behind in all his school work and will no longer do homework. He has hidden his school books so many times saying he doesn't have them.
He has a social worker as a result of him running away twice last year.
He has fecal incontinence that we have finally got an appointment with a paediatrician for in September after waiting 18 months since referral.
He has had a QB test for ADHD they said he has high levels of activity but not enough for a diagnosis.
We are waiting for an autism assessment (I've gone private after waiting 18 months on the NHS). Still waiting for that appointment.
He is due to start play therapy in the next few weeks that SS have arranged for him.
He is 22nd on the list to be seen by the ed psych (has moved up 4 places in 4 months) but that won't be happening this school year.
Head teacher advised me this afternoon to go back to the GP but I'm not actually sure what I am asking for when I do?
He is so angry and nasty to people but he doesn't seem to know why. Not really with me because he knows I will enforce consequences but in school or with my mum he knows they don't have the same authority to punish him as I do and he pushes it. He reacts loudly to things. Even when he is playing happily he will scream and it is so aggressive sounding. He says kids in his class are scared of him and I completely see why! He was running around the play park yesterday happily in a world of his own and creaming something (I have no idea what) and it sounded horrible, other children were looking at him and I'm sure making a note to keep their distance. He was oblivious to this.
He is so immature in some aspects of his behaviour, I would say around 5/6 years old rather than 8 and then in others he will try and manipulate like an adult. An example his head teacher gave today was that she had told him he had done a very stupid thing (I don't know what) and he responded "are you calling me stupid? As a head teacher are you calling me stupid? Are you happy that one of your pupils is hurt?"
I have actually given up my job because I am no longer a reliable employee due to constantly having to come and collect him. I plan to work from home (was originally going to be a childminder but it doesn't look like that will be an option as a result of his behaviour)
What else do I need to be doing? If I go back to the GP what am I asking them to do?