I feel like I can't cope anymore

[kellyjane020486]

Hello,
I have a 6 year old daughter who generally can be very good. She's doing really well at school they have no concerns about her work or behaviour. But at home she can cry and kick off over the smallest of things. Like if she drops something, or the cover isn't on her bed properly. Or maybe a toy isn't quite where she left it. She seems to behave more and be less whingy when I'm not around.
She can hit out if she gets really angry and will throw things so if I go to stop her like hold her arms she will then say I hurt her which obviously I would never do.
I love her more than anything but it's now starting to stress me out because I always try and teach her what's right and wrong and knowing how well she behaves at school it just frustrates me that she has these issues at home.

Hi there, I only have a baby so not experience of older children but bumping in the hope someone else will come along.

Most areas have parenting courses that you can be referred to via your child's school in order to learn some techniques for managing behaviour. You certainly won't be the first parent to have felt like this.

This is just my take on it, I hope there will be others soon with their experiences. She's doing really well at school, that requires a great deal of effort on her part. Following rules etc all day trying really hard. When she gets home, now that's when all that pent up emotion will get released. She's in a safe environment where she can express herself, as hard as it is to accept, this is actually a compliment to you as she feels so safe with you she can just be emotional over what adults will see as over the top without getting into big trouble! I would just talk calmly to her when she gets upset, reassure her that the "problem" can be fixed, lots of smiles and "it's ok". Think of it as how we are as adults, in my "adult" life at work I have to bite my tongue sometimes when I don't agree with something but know that objecting would end badly for me so by the time I get home I can easily be emotional and get upset over something "silly". Having a safe and calm home to come home to makes this much more bearable. It makes sense in my head, I hope it makes some kind of sense here!