My daughter is 3 and a half. Up until a couple of months ago, she has been a generally well behaved little girl, although obviously there have been the usual tantrums to deal with. These tended to be few and far between, and felt manageable.
Over the past few weeks, her behaviour has changed, the tantrums have massively ramped up, become more frequent, longer, harder to deal with. Also triggered by seemingly nothing. She has become very fixated on things being a certain way - e.g. Where she sits, what she wears, etc. Clearly has discovered that she has free will, and doesn't HAVE to do as we say!
Unfortunately some unpleasant behaviours have started to emerge. She was never a hitter, but has started hitting out when she doesn't have her own way. This is instantly followed by time on the naughty step, or in her bedroom, which we do in a "super nanny" way, with explanation, silently returning to the step if she gets off, then cuddle and apology at the end.
The other thing she has recently been doing is weeing on the floor. She has been toilet trained for over a year, these are not accidents or forgetting to go to the toilet. She knows full well what she is doing. It is one of those things that absolutely infuriates me, but we have been trying hard to be low key about it, after reading that advice on here. So saying "oh dear. Wee goes in the toilet" and then getting her to put the wet clothes in the washing machine.
This morning she has already hit me because I told her she couldn't do something. She went to her room. When I went to get her after the allotted time, she had weed on her carpet.
So I'm asking, do I really just ignore this?! I feel it makes a complete mockery of the original punishment. I find it so hard to deal with, as to me it feels like a massive "fuck you!!!! And fuck your punishment!!!"
So here we are at 7:30am, and I feel the day has been set up badly with such a negative start, I am still sat in bed not really wanting to get up because I can't bear the idea that I will have to deal with more of this shit today.
Any ideas? In between the horrible behaviour, she is a kind, articulate, bright little girl. Also, very sensitive and a bit shy. She never hits other children, only me, and occasionally her dad.