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Neighbours kid deliberately nasty to mine

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LJJP · 23/05/2017 21:17

I have a 2 year old boy, he can be a bit boisterous but is generally a well behaved and nice kid. We share a communal garden with a few other families, most of whom have kids, and there are around five different children my son plays outside with. Four of them he gets on with beautifully, they play nice games and I rarely have to intervene with anything. But one child, who is a few years older than the rest, has a bit of a mean streak and for some reason seems to aim it only at my son. I don't mind a bit of hitting and snatching, that's to be expected, but what this kid does is borderline bullying and the age gap is quite huge, I would expect him to know better. If he was a strangers' child I'd have no problem reprimanding him but seeing as he's a neighbour's boy I don't really want to cause a problem. It's got to the point where if this kid is outside I don't really want to let my little boy out, but he can see all his other friends playing out and why should he be punished? I'm now at a point where I don't want to be at home when the schools let out because I don't want him playing out there, and I'm dreading the summer holidays. It's really stressful for me to have to keep dealing with it. My son isn't the sort of kid who cries over everything, he's pretty tough for a 2 year old, but regardless of whether my boy is bothered or not I don't like the bullying behaviour. Any advice?

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llangennith · 23/05/2017 22:53

You obviously don't let a two year old out to play on his own so when the older child starts to bully your DS tell him not to. Hover near your DS and the bully will soon get the message that he's not going to get away with spitefulness .

MJ33 · 24/05/2017 00:26

No he doesn't go out by himself, though it's an enclosed back garden not the middle of the street, but the older boy doesn't care if I'm standing there or if I tell him to stop, that's part of the problem

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