Why does baby cry with daddy?

[Clumsymumsy22]

My baby is currently 10 weeks old and for the last week she cried and screamed herself to sleep whenever he holds her, but she will stop as soon as he gives her to me. She's fine with me and even other people, but not daddy. She will smile at him etc when he's not holding her but this stops when he picks her up.

It's really getting him down and I feel bad for him. We've tried me cooking more so he can spend more time with her, he's done skin to skin, and I've left the house for short periods of time for him to look after her. But it doesn't seem to be working. Any ideas?

Are you breastfeeding? If so, it's partially that. She knows he's not got the good stuff.

Her crying probably makes him nervous. I know it sounds stupid but I have the worst luck with happy babies, because I am so scared I will make them cry, whereas I will happily take a crying baby and usually manage to calm them down.

User - no I'm bottle feeding

He's feeding her mow now in the evenings while I cook etc and she can be in his arms for short periods of time. Guess I'll just have to encourage him to keep doing what he's doing and persevere.

Thank you all 😊

Ps. There were 3 posts that I saw last night but was too zombiefied to reply to but they seem to have been deleted for some reason. But I did see them and thank you for your advice

That must be really hard for DH. Could he have one of your t shirts nearby so your smell is still around? He doesn't hold her differently? Eg. If DD has reflux being held flat may cause her to cry. Does he wear aftershave? I had to ask DH to stop wearing his as it really got up my nose (still sensitive to smell) and I wanted the baby to smell him not the pong!. Trying to think of other things.. I'm sure it'll get better, like you say more time and play/ bathtime will help.

It could be looks as well! My father loves little kids but he has a mustache. If they have never seen it before/haven't grown up with it they will scream and run away from him. Or cry as soon as they look at him. DS didn't cry because his own father had a beard and mustache his whole life.
Has he grown one of them lately or changed his hair?
One of the pp may be right, maybe you should try wearing a t-shirt of his after he's worn it. She may not like the smell, but it may slowly make a difference in getting her use to him.