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Today I have mostly been a bad mum...

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twiglett · 07/07/2004 20:37

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twiglett · 07/07/2004 20:50

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maisystar · 07/07/2004 21:01

hmmmm, i know that feeling!!

i am trying to do that 3 step thing off little angels....

" , could you please stop doing that? "

" right, stop it now "

" right, sit on the steps for 3 mins please "

all said in a tone of slightly manic attempting to be patient but on the verge of exploding voice

coppertop · 07/07/2004 21:05

Another one here. I've been a screaming witch from hell all week, mostly with ds2 who spends most of his time literally either climbing up the walls or bouncing off them. And I used to think ds1 was hyper.....

Bagpuss30 · 07/07/2004 21:14

Me too . I have a lovely sore throat now and have just confiscated ds's favourite toy . The only thing that will cheer me up is a nice cold glass of wine .

Fairyfly · 07/07/2004 21:15

Bad mother because i am about two minutes away from really loosing my temper and swearing at the little...things

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Fairyfly · 07/07/2004 21:21

I think i have to be called into work any minute, even though i have no job, i have to think of an excuse to run away for a while, i am loosing it, i have just exploded at them

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GeorginaA · 07/07/2004 22:22

SCREAM ... I swear three year olds are far worse than two year olds. Whoever named "terrible twos" got the age wrong! I have witnessed some SPECTACULAR strops today, including full blown drumming legs on floor while writhing around.

I'm sure it's retribution for having had a mild-mannered toddler...

codswallop · 07/07/2004 22:27

hsve you ever tried ALL going to your bedrroms?
it workks really well

dot1 · 07/07/2004 22:29

Can I join the bad mothers' club please..? I just don't know what to do about ds1, who's soooo jealous of ds2 and has taking to trying to scratch and hit him while I'm breastfeeding. This makes me want to cry and scream and wallop him one all at the same time, and I get unbelievably cross but know I need to try not to show it too much... Today I took his Bob video away (fav. video at the moment) and felt so childish when I'd done it. But I've tried the 3 step thing and although he says sorry at the end of it, he'll do exactly the same thing at the next feed... I called him "horrible" today and felt sooooo bad..

coppertop · 07/07/2004 22:43

Ds1 has just trotted in to announce, " very dangerous, Mummy." I can't believe I'm so delighted that a 4yr-old agrees with me!

Paula71 · 08/07/2004 00:05

It is all too easy just to slip up, forget all the "good" parenting and shout right back. Ds twins are 2 1/2 so heading to this age group full-steam ahead! Well, they have the tantrums down pat already.

One time they were really going at it and I just yelled really loudly, they both turned round and gave me a look like "what is up with you?"

They make a happy woman very old!

motherinferior · 08/07/2004 00:12

Twiglett, can we take your ds and my dd1 to the park - and then leave them there? They're exactly the same age.

DD1 threw the most spectacular screaming hissyfit I've ever witnessed today. Complete with 'I want to eat my sandwich in front of the telly'. Go ahead, kid, scream your lungs out in someone else's house AND let slip the fact that you're allowed to eat in front of the telly

I am soooooooo bad at this motherhood lark

dot1 · 08/07/2004 00:33

What really throws me is that ds1 and I can be having such a good time - I'm really trying to give him loads and loads of attention since the arrival of ds2, so we play loads and I give him tons of attention and he's still a little git...! Really don't know what else I can do, so I resort to making silly threats re: taking away his toys, or I shout at him. . Really thought I'd be better at this... Can't wait for ds2 to be bigger and wallop him one back (not that I condone the children fighting it out..!)

maisystar · 08/07/2004 00:34

is eating in front of the telly bad???

oooh, feel a new thread coming on!..........

GeorginaA · 08/07/2004 00:57

That's just it dot1 - I give SO much (mostly good, honest, ahem) attention to ds1 at the moment, really try hard to make sure he has lots of fun during ds2's naptimes and reading to him during the feed times. Realistically, he's getting more attention now than he ever did pre-baby (I would get on with housework & chores leaving him to play on his own pre-baby, now I rush around like a mad thing early in the morning before dh goes to work) - so why does he get so pissed off when I spend 5 minutes of attention with ds2?! Well, yes, I know why, but still!

Or worse, when we get some alone time together that's when he throws the major wobbly completely ruining any fun we might have had.

I'd console myself that it'll get easier as ds1 gets older, but I've seen the f**king fours threads on here too...

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