Behaviour issues at school 6 yr old

[Samanne25]

I'm at my wits end with my DS who is 6 next month. He's in year 1 and really struggling with his behaviour. When he first started in September he was disrupting class and interrupting and I was having to go see his teacher a lot. It seemed like we had got over this and since Christmas his behaviour had improved. Then two weeks off at Easter, he was lovely for the first week then really testing in the second week and now gone back to school and his behaviour is bad again. Different this time in that hes being silly and very immature and not doing his work but just messing around. He's come home from after school club tonight and they've said he's been silly and if it happens next week then they'll stop him from going. I just don't know what to do, he can be the most lovely sweet boy at times but others he doesn't listen or do as he's told. Please tell me someone can relate....
I'm feeling like a massive failure as a parent right now!

If the Club DOES suspend him for a while, it may help to realise it is not worth being disruptive, and disturbing the enjoyment of other people.

I don't think children really WANT to be naughty, but sometimes excitement or something, can cause them to behave in ways that are not appropriate and acceptable.

When you spoke to school did they give more indication of why they thought he was struggling. Could he be finding the work too easy or too difficult. Does he sleep well - could he be tired. Does he struggle to concentrate or sit still. How is his behaviour at home, does he have siblings. Has his hearing and vision be tested.

Sorry for all the questions- children struggle with their behaviour for many reasons and often it is masking other difficulties. Ds1 struggled in year 1. Combination of personality clash with teacher and the raised expectations of year 1. He has other difficulties as well but the previous teacher had understood them so his behaviour did not suffer. We did get thrown through it and he settled well in the end although there are still staff who don't 'get' him.

How is his behaviour at home? Do you think you set firm enough boundaries there?
Have there been any changes or difficult things in his life lately?
And don't feel like a failure....lots of parents go through times where their kids are being naughty

He does struggle to concentrate but again this had improved but now seems to have gone backwards. He sleeps well although we can always tell if he's tired! He goes to bed at the same time each night, between 7:15-7:45 but he wakes around 6. We have a 14 month old as well so she's always up around the same time.
I'm glad someone mentioned a personality clash because this is something that we had thought, his reception teacher left Easter last year and we never had any problems until then.
It's just so frustrating as when we talk to him he knows how to behave etc but just doesn't follow through at school.

What behaviour strategies have school put in place. Ds's school does have a very clear behaviour policy which seems to work well for most of the children although ds1 would push the boundaries if he felt the situation was unfair. I met with the class teacher and talked through some strategies that we used at home with ds1 and things improved after that. In life we can not always get on with everyone and my friends son thought their year 1 teacher was fantastic and he did not get on with the reception class teacher. Whilst for ds1 it was the other way round. Sometimes you just have to get through the year.

To be honest his teacher isn't very helpful when I've seen her in the past. Lots of criticism but no advice or suggestions on how to change it. She seems to be more interested in punishing him than sorting out any problems. I have been just trying to get him through the year but am now worrying that it will be the same next year.

Maybe ask for a meeting with the Key Stage leader (primary equivalent of Head of Year)? I'd not be happy with the lack of strategies - his behaviour is hardly extreme or very unusual, and a good teacher would be able to come up with some strategies to try.