Parent bullying my child of 10

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Due to upset some 18 months ago between 2 10 yr olds the mother obsessed to ruin mine and my daughters life. Swears and is really hateful to my daughter when no one around on school grounds and out of school whenever she sees us. Last year police involved, now started again. Daughter beside herself has awful nightmares. At wits end! Daughter comes out different exit at school it appears we are the ones having to change our routine but she gets away with her awful behaviour.

This sounds awful - your poor DD.
What has the headteacher said about this?
Why were the police involved?

Her hands are tied she has spoken once to the women involved but she is aloud in the school building because of problems with her ex. Police involved because she started coming round the house and my place of work and harrassing us. If I go to them again it involves a court order I don't really want to go down the avenue. The police have had dealings with her before.

What was the problem between the girls that could have so upset even 18 months later?

can you have mediation? I know it'd be so annoying to HAVE to find common ground and solution with this woman, but could you put up with it for the sake of having a peaceful life back (if it worked?)

I don't see how the headteacher's hands are tied, TBH.
Even if this woman is allowed on school property, the school staff have a responsibility to ensure that your DD is safe.
An adult bullying and intimidating a child on school grounds is not acceptable, and the school need to act to stop it.
Put your concerns in writing to the headteacher if you haven't done so already.

Sounds like the head has fobbed you off. This woman sounds unbalanced and a court order is probably your bst bet. You could also try contacting Kidscape for advice - think it's kidscape.org.uk.

This woman in unballanced the names she has called my child I wouldn't use on an adult. The 2 of us have had meetings with the head and she just swears and shouts at the head so a third party is of no use. Nothing has happened for 2 weeks but I am investigating new schools as my daughters happiness is the most important thing. I have even been to the govenors and they just reported back what the head had told me that her hands are tied. RUBBISH

I will certainly try kidscape. Thank you

I wouldn't accept the heads dismissal of the situation.. I would ask for a letter which details exactly what it is they plan to do.

I would go to the police again.. if there is a court order they can enforce it.

you have no obligation to protect this woman from them, surely.

No I don't but because of the kind of person she is and the people she knows even the police said I would have to expect pepercusions if I went down that route.

Oh your poor DD. Neither of you should have to put up with this. That woman is plainly bonkers and needs to be dealt with. Changing schools is one solution but I am with others in saying that the court order route is best. Unfortunately she obviously knows where you live and you need to keep safe. I think it would also show your DD that you will go all out to protect her and help her regain her confidence.
I also think the school are being pathetic.
I do hope things get better for you soon.

I hate to say it but u r all right I must go the court order route but I think the thing that has dissapointed me the most is the lack of involvement from the school. Even the head herself told me the welfare and safety of the children on school property are paramount well why not my daughter. One things for sure I wouldnt recommend this school to anyone.

good luck, sounds awful