Does anyone have some advise please. The background is I have 5 yr old DD and 2.5 yr old DS. My DS is very physical and high energy and not completely verbal yet so there is some frustration. My DD is sweet and kind but can be bossy and annoys my son particularly when he is tired.
My DS scratches, hits and pulls my DD's hair. It can happen in a matter of seconds so I'm not always right there to intervene before he hurts her. Sometimes there is no provocation, other times there is. I have 2 days of one on one time with DS and regular weekly one on one time with my DD. My DD's teacher has called me in to talk about the marks that my DS has left on my DD and asked me to try and stop this. I understand why the teacher has spoken to me and the need for checking on all marks on children with the increase of safeguarding and child protection.
The thinking step/space doesn't work on DS yet as he won't stay put. I sometimes separate them by putting him in the garden. Discipling him results in him being violent with me. He hates saying sorry, especially to his sister, although I do make him however insincere it seems.
Dinnertime and bedtime are particularly difficult as I'm usually on my own (DH isn't back until after they are in bed) so trying to cook dinner and separate them at same time doesn't always work. I do try and distract them with separate activities but their attention span (particularly my DS) isn't very long.
I just wonder what other parents do in this situation. Please no judgement, just trying to be a more effective parent TIA