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Worried about 11 month old development

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Mummy247D · 04/05/2017 15:32

Hello

I am Just wondering if anyone can put my mind at ease.. I am just soo worried and feeling so guilty! So a couple weeks ago my 11 month old had his development check... I never up until now worried about what he can and cannot do because I absolutely adore him and think he's amazing!
Some of the questions have got me questioning is he is being left behind or maybe something could be wrong Sad So he's quite a happy smiley boy and you can make him giggle quite easy, he also crawls which he started about a month ago, he pulls himself up and is getting really good at it! He also babbles and says mama dadda but I don't think he understands what they mean!
But the things that worry me are.. he's never been affectionate, he won't wave, clap, or even try to copy anything I do such as facial expressions, sounds, etc. He rarely ever responds to his name (his hearing is absolutely fine!) so has anyone had any experience of this? I play with him all day long and I am constantly trying to practice in these areas but I don't seem to be getting anywhere! Worst thing now I am starting to compare him to my friends babies and it's making me feel worse!
Sorry for babbling on
Thank you!

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LovingLola · 04/05/2017 15:34

Did the person who did the development check think that he may be delayed in any way (within the normal range for his age I mean)?

DoItTooJulia · 04/05/2017 15:40

Babies develop at such different rates and they develop different skills at different times, so comparing such young babies is pointless and will only drive you round the bend.

As an example, I met a woman at a baby group. Babies born days apart. My child was Running and jumping and hopping months before hers was. The flip side was, her child was talking in full on sentences months before mine could say 'mamma'. Those babies are almost 5 now and they can run, hop, jump and talk just as well as each other (in fact, it'd be nice if they shut up for five minutes and sat still! Wink)

All that said, don't be afraid to say if something doesn't seem right-even if you're wrong, it won't do any harm to mention your concerns to your hv/gp.

He sounds lovely btw Smile

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Mummy247D · 04/05/2017 15:41

She didn't really say too much about it and just said she would refer him to get his hearing checked! I wasn't too worried myself until she left and I started thinking about it all.. and googling ! Worst thing ever to do I know.. Hmm

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atupri · 04/05/2017 16:31

Hi, I have the exactly same worry as you. My son just turned 11 months and his physical development is all good. But he never copies any gesture. Never understand any simple order such as: come here, give me the toy etc Neither does he interested in any normal baby toys. He loves shaking head, grinding teeth when excited . He loves throwing things around, taking things out of a box and put them back or tearing paper apart. I raised my concerns with my HV and Gp as I'm so worried that he might have ASD. But they just told me I have to wait and see. Sad

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Mummy247D · 04/05/2017 16:44

It's not a nice feeling is it!! I just feel so guilty but I am trying my best. I did take him to the gp but she said again wait and see... it's so worrying. You aren't alone xx

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Mummy247D · 04/05/2017 20:00

Thanks doltTooJulia for the positive reply. I'm hoping that's all it is. Us mummies just can't help but worry Blush

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DoItTooJulia · 04/05/2017 21:21

It's all such a bloody worry-I've got a 12 yo and he brings a whole other set of worries!

You know your baby-and you weren't worried until this check, so I'd say just keep an eye on things and like I said, don't be afraid to see someone about it.

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RoseGoldProsecco · 06/05/2017 14:57

Mine was 11 months before she clapped and 12-13 months before she waved - she was pointing long before she waved, in fact. I worried as all the other nct babies were clapping and waving at about 8 months.

Now she's 19 months and does it all, nonstop, copies everything (she even says "sheets" after hearing me say "shit" just once!!! Blush).

So I wouldn't panic; I worried a lot and itjust wasted precious time when they are so small for such a short time. If he makes good eye contact and responds to games like tickling and peekaboo etc, hopefully wave/clap/copy won't be long now. But if you're worried that he doesn't engage quite fully enough, make an appointment just to get him checked and to put your mind at rest.

Nousername2015 · 07/05/2017 08:08

I was you a few months ago op, especially when I started comparing Ds to other babies. It's good that your little one is getting their hearing checked. My ds pointed at 12 months, waved at 13 months and clapped at 14 months. He's now 15 months and learning new words every day. I had many a sleepless night worrying about development when he was around 11 months, I'm afraid all you can do is keep playing, he's learning a lot that way!

littletwofeet · 07/05/2017 08:19

Try not to worry-whether it is something or it's nothing, it won't change your perfect little boy, he'll still be exactly the same.

It's good that he's getting checked early as if there is anything that needs to be picked up on, early intervention makes a massive difference.

ttrrii · 09/10/2021 05:48

@Mummy247D How is your son doing now?

ttrrii · 14/10/2021 21:12

@atupri How is your son doing now?

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