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Please help losing my temper about obsessive DS

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Justtwoweeks · 01/05/2017 07:20

I am screaming in my head and desperately don't want to lose my temper at DS but I am about to go insane.

DS (5) is so obsessive about everything and I feel like I can't cope with it. My BIL is just the same and I feel like I just can't bear a whole life putting up with it.

The kitchen table has to be both completely clear of things and clean whenever he sits there. A tiny spill of water must be cleaned up immediately. A classmate went near him and a bit of that classmates hair went 'in' his mouth and he needs to move seats. And on and on and on.

I know I'm being intolerant and he's only young and maybe advice about how I just cope with it is the thing rather than advice of how to get him to relax I don't know. But it's just so so different from my personality and the thought of adhering to everything little thing like this is soul destroying. I see it first hand with what MIL went through with BIL. She says it's turned her into such an uptight person and swears she used to be so laid back (now most highly strung person I know) Sad

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TheMonkeyandthePlywoodViolin · 01/05/2017 07:21

Can you get him assessed for OCD? And BIl should be too.

Justtwoweeks · 01/05/2017 15:54

How does one do that? It seems unlikely to me though. He doesn't have any rituals routines tics etc. He's just incredibly physically sensitive it seems like. I think I need to find a way to manage it.

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TheMonkeyandthePlywoodViolin · 01/05/2017 16:00

If it begins to cause an issue you could ask GP for a referral to CAMHS :)

NewTownVelocity · 01/05/2017 16:03

My nephew was a bit like this. He grew out of it. Might be worth chatting to your GP, particularly as your BIL has history.

TheMonkeyandthePlywoodViolin · 01/05/2017 16:07

I mean an issue you cant manage

Justtwoweeks · 01/05/2017 16:26

Thanks but kind of looking for suggestions on how to manage it?

I find it absolutely intolerable but I know I'm being unfair. But I do think it just makes life a bit irritating and boring, particularly for him, constantly minding so much about completely pointless things.

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Curlyone123 · 01/05/2017 16:57

Get him to do the tidying up, clearing the table etc if that is how he wants it. Maybe when he realises how much hard work it is he might stop being so obsessive.

Good luck

TheMonkeyandthePlywoodViolin · 01/05/2017 16:57

Well..they would give suggestions

Justtwoweeks · 01/05/2017 16:58

Sorry I wasn't trying to be churlish. I just meant suggestions from people who've experienced similar e.g. Encouraging him to do x, oh yes my DD was like this and I found y really helped or similar. Honestly I think the GP would laugh in my face.

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TheMonkeyandthePlywoodViolin · 01/05/2017 17:00

Thats a shame as it sounds really difficult for you and him :(

Pansiesandredrosesandmarigolds · 01/05/2017 19:46

Have you looked into sensory processing disorder?
www.webmd.com/children/sensory-processing-disorder

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