Please tell me dd will grow out of this!

[duckyisback]

I have a 2yr old ds and a 6 month old dd. I split up with their father when I was pregnant, he was having supervised contact with ds but since dd has come along it started to get less often and eventually stopped. He's held dd about 3 times.

Since she was a few weeks old, if anyone even looks in dd's direction who isn't me she has a meltdown until I pick her up, if anyone speaks to her, she has a meltdown... and if anyone tries to hold her she goes absolutely mad. I guessed this was because she has only really known me.

I thought by 6 months she would of grown out of this but there's no signs of it yet. It's getting exhausting.

I'm unable to leave her with anyone, even for the shortest amount of time

Anyone have any advice?

In my day this was called 'making strange'. And yes, they grow out of it in a few months.

Thanks!

Have never heard of making strange.

Am hoping she grows out of it soon, it gets so tiring

It's a normal thing that starts around 5 or 6 months.

My niece was exactly the same. Her own dad couldn't hold her for more then a few minutes as she would be hysterical ...

You situation obviously has made this more difficult. You must be exhausted.

Anyone as in friends or family around yo help you?

My son was exactly like this it stopped around 10 months. He wouldn't have anyone that didn't live in our house hold him. Trying to take him to see relatives and them wanting a hold he would just scream and would only stop when I picked him up or held him. He was worse with my MIL and she wasn't happy one bit she just wanted to hold him.
We were at a party once and my hubbys auntie was trying to get him to come round and he was screaming when she spoke and tried to cuddle him. I thought I'll see what happens if I don't wade in when he starts so I sat back, but all it took was her to sit beside him with a balloon and a wooden spoon to bash the balloon with, obviously she was bashing the balloon and d's was loving it. After that he was fine with her. When she crys do you pick her up as soon as she gets upset. As I got a little fed up with and thought ill see what happens if I don't give him the attention and it worked. Maybe it was just a coincidence.
It will stop eventually , funny enough my son is a right chatter box now and will start a conversation with anyone.

It will get better.

I have no advice but my son is 6 months and has been the same for the past month or so with men even more so! His poor grandads can't hold him and he sobs hysterically if they even look at him! He's only happy with me, my other half and my mum! I'm hoping he grows out of it too!

My inlaws also call it 'making strange'. My youngest dd hated anyone picking her up, apart from me, especially when I was still bf. My Dh took personal offence to it, although I found it hard work being the only one to comfort her - she definitely grew out of it!