Hi everyone, I was just hoping for some advice really. I have a 4 yo son who really is such a loving caring sweet little boy but just lately (past few months) he has become a quite uncontrollable. He is not violent in anyway and i know he does not want to hurt people but just lately especially at school he pushes, punches and is really rough with the older children. not necessarily with younger children its with older boys. Part of me thinks he does it to try and fit in with the older ones but even if we go to a soft play area/park I literally cannot take my eye of him. It is severely affecting his school life, he has to be kept in the classroom at breaks and supervised at all times. The teachers have started a star chart etc with him which I know he understands but he just cannot keep i in his mind to remember to not play rough etc. Everyday at pick up I have the teacher telling me he has done something, I am so worried they are becoming more and more unable to cope with him too. It feels like they are becoming increasingly unsupportive. Selfishly this is really getting me down, at home I cannot rest for 2 minutes, i feel like I have a toddler again, he does silly things without thinking of the consequences. He suffered with glue ear for the first few years of his life but has had grommets fitted (2015) which have helped him and his last hearing test 6 months ago was perfect. Academically he is average he is in reception and is learning to write his name however everything he writes is backwards, once reminded he corrects but again he needs constant reminding. He does not play with anything..ever he just leaps and runs around the house. I try and sit and draw or play lego but he looses interest within seconds. It is also affecting his sister (8) too as he does not want to play with her he just likes to aggravate and annoy her and my time is taken from her alot.. I know this can be typical children but I honestly worry this is so much more. My mum came to visit today and she is normally way more patient than me but she even struggled today. I am normally very patient but honestly I can feel it running out. I hate shouting at him but cant help myself lately. We have had no family problems, myself and my husband are happily married and I (hope) we offer a stable happy life. It is getting to the stage I cannot even take him out through fear of him misbehaving. Sticker charts work for couple of hours/days and then he soon forgets. The only other issue is that I don't really feel like my husband understands, he sees it as "ah hes just a boy" and he sometimes finds some of his actions 'funny' not to his face but he doesnt see the seriousness of it. I dont like throwing conditions/names around but I am debating taking him to the doctors to be observed- I am so sorry for the long post but im not too sure who else to speak too.
Can anyone offer any advice?? Literally any would be amazing! :)