Hi, I am hoping someone out there can give me advice as I don't know what to do any more! My son is 9 and at the beginning of last year, he started to have these meltdowns, these only happen at home!!!!!!!they were angry and sometimes violent, throwing things, screeching and screaming and shouting at us, this had never happened before! Once he's in this kind of mood it seems to spiral and he seems quite sad, once he's had one we generally know they are going to happen again soon as he seems to get down and then everything that happens afterwards seems magnified, if he makes a mistake or something doesn't go right, he gets very upset because he's in this black mood!
He had a lot of change in the months leading up,to this, teachers kept leaving and then he ended up with 3 teachers teaching the class a week, not very stable! We went to camhs got turned down and reapplied and eventually got seen, they were checking him for ADHD, autism etc as he has got a few strange quirks thst we mentioned and also for we felt the trigger of meltdowns was usually when we asked him to do something! Camhs saw him for few weeks then came to the conclusion that he may have autistic traits, possibly have low self esteem and anxiety and then basically told us they could no longer help. During our time st camhs, I felt I could see a little improvement but once they said they can't help us, it all kicked off again. Basically the things he does that worry us the most is the meltdowns, they are normally quite intense and frightening, my son says he doesn't like it happening, he's scared and he wants to stop, along with this when we tell him to do something it's like we haven't said it, sometimes we could say get your pjs on please 20 times and then it can cause a meltdown. He cries or grizzles everyday and meltdowns are quite frequent! After my mum did some research she found this thing called PAD, has anyone heard of it or have any advice, when I read the symptoms it just felt like it was him. I would suspect he has some autistic traits, he has very set ways and ideas about things, can get upset if you move something out of the way, has some issues with eye contact with adults, food very picky and can't mix things up has to eat each food separately, likes to put things in lines. He is a very intelligent child and has always done well st school but it does seem to be affecting his work now, he just seems to give up and homework is such a battle and often leads to meltdowns. On top of this he sets the bed which he has always done but he was on meds which stopped it now the meds seem to have no affect so I'm changing the bed sometimes 2-3 times a night. I'm so worried about his state of mind and along with everything else, I'm just exhausted and don't know where to turn!