Ds1 keeps drawing pictures of 'Mummy and Daddy holding hands'

[colditz]

Is this normal? For those of you that don't know, 'Daddy' moved out last week.

Ds1 is 3.11

And he keeps telling me he is Poorly and Sad. I suspect he means stressed out

Oh, sweetheart

I didn't know he'd moved out! How did I miss that?

Are you OK? I don't know about the drawings - I suspect he will be sad about it though, because he is a little boy who doesn't understand big grown-up things.

Haaaa well it is merely a continuation in the past 2 years, no deviation from norm for dp.

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Colditz, he probably needs to this as part of the process of making sense of the changes in his world.

Haven't read your threads, but I think it probably is quite normal and healthy.

He gets that daddy has a bedroom somewhere else now, and that daddy will still come to see him every day.

but he is upset that daddy hasn't got a bed here anymore. And he keeps asking why and I don't know what to say.

I guess it is probably an expression of his wishful thinking but that doesn't mean it's a bad thing. Drawing might be a really helpful way for you and he to communicate about what is going on..

By the way - there are parallels between your situation and the one I was in. I left in the end, not him but wanted to say I totally sympathise with you.

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Oh, Colditz, this must be so hard for you. FWIW I remember when my parents got divorced, my sister and I were very shocked and upset but you gradually get used to it. And it was such a relief not to have to listen to all the arguments any more. We were older, so I can't give you any advice about looking after a 3 yr old, but it does get better, honest.

Daddy is here, has been here most of the day, but he went out earlier, back to his flaty, and that's when the daddy drawings fest came about.

Daddy is going at 5, so expecting nightmare bedtime too, being as he has been yhere all day. He's usually only here for 2 /3 hours

It helps, actually that his dad has always done shifts. Ds1 has never expected him here at any particular time of day.