Is there anywhere he does enjoy going that is safe? Softplay, swimming pool, park? My DS is 12m and is ok mood/tantrum-wise (so far), but he is big, strong, boisterous and into everything, won't sit in a high chair etc. I've started minimising where I take him and now only take him somewhere he can get down and explore. Easier said than done with grocery shopping etc though...
The other thing I do try to remember if he's fussing is that he has very little control over his life so I try to give him (limited) choices over what trousers to wear, which fruit to eat etc. At the moment he doesn't quite have the understanding but I'm trying to get into the habit of it. I think sometimes the refusing food, refusing to get coat on etc is a protest about a lack of choice. This is just my theory so possibly totally wrong but maybe worth a try?
Also don't worry about the looks etc. You are probably much more aware of the noise and behaviour than others. And I suspect most of the looks are sympathetic 'been there, done that' looks!
No phase lasts forever. It will end, and he will go through phases of being a total dream. I hated 9-11 months when he crawled (badly) cruised (badly, fell over and screamed every two fecking minutes) had zero understanding of language, destroyed and ate absolutely everything in his path, nearly choked about 200 times a day, didn't sleep, cried all day, teething, wanted picked up every two minutes... ugh. I thought I had made a huge mistake having him. 
Christmas was miserable. Just a month on and things are so much better except the biting