I AM LOOSING MY MIND!!! I have two "children" (or foundling demons switched at birth I'm not sure) of 6 and 8 who are currently making me want to pull my own hair, eyes, teeth, fingernails and brain out.
They LITERALLY will not behave. After I mutually split from their father they are behaving increasingly badly- especially after they ahve spent prolonged time with him. (read I asked him to leave because our relationship was resembling that of customer and housekeeper, and he had the general appearance, ambience and a dead parrot....inanimate, expired, lifeless....you get the idea)
When here with me I expect them to do small household chores (make their beds - badly granted but have a bash at it is fine, help unload dishwasher and tidy away what they are playing with), they are also expected to behave to a certain set of standards (shock horror- flush the toilet after using it, not hit one another, not try and create weapons to fight each other to death and sit properly at the table- ie. not stand on their chairs while eating), I also try and feed them reasonable meals (pasta, pies, noodles etc Odd treat meal of chips and pizza) But today TODAY this apparently this is beyond the pale of reasonable expectation, and they ahve all but created an alternate universe where they are in charge and I am a not even on the level of child but in fact bottom slave and unable to get them to respond to the simplest request. Oh and I ahve lost my voice from yelling all day. AND my sanity form getting advice from either a- smug mums, b- non-parents who don't ahve a clue, that although their advice is sound putting it into practice is like trying to fill wrangle cats or c- family memebers who probably think I brought this on myself for having the audacity to not remain ina coma like state of of my ex-marriage!!!
I ask not for help, not for advice not for sympathy but for ANYONE to agree and say their children are not bloody perfect, that sometimes they also actively (while still loving them) dislike their children and wonder how they created the hell-born demon children, tell me that you also feel like a rubbish mum and IT IS OK to feel like this sometimes.....oh and to give me regular updates as to how long there is to go until bed time, tell me I CAN DO THIS, and set me a countdown clock to bedtime so Iknow when I can pour a glass of wine.