We have been debating since our son was little, to move out of East London. Me and partner both grew up here and would like a new start. We had lots of family issues and wasn't sure where to move so in the end, we are still where we are now.
My son will turn 9 this year and not long to go before we apply for secondary schools. We are not that keen on the local secondary school although it has become a lot better than it used to be.
My son is slow to warm to people and has always been a bit too honest (sometimes coming across a bit rude) and doesn't share very well. So at school, although he has a group of friends, he always seems to be a little more left out than others. We invite friends round more than he has been invited.
We are now looking to make the move to a new area and now doubting our decision.
Is this a bad time to move around age 9? I am starting to see a shift in the way my son and his friends all behave and play and I'm concerned this might be a bad time for my son to move and start fresh. His self esteem is quite low and I'm worried about the effect that moving will do. Although sometimes I think perhaps a new start could be better for him.
Has anyone had any experiences of moving around this age and how it worked out? Any advise please?
I moved when I was 7 and apart from feeling a bit alone to start with, I made friends eventually at school and I don't think it took that long. But 7 is different to 9 and I think the older they get the harder it gets especially for someone who is quite reserved .