Help with disciplining the right way.

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Hi. can anyone recommend somewhere that can offer advice on how to gain control in disciplining my 6&7 year old children?
I'm fighting a losing battle and don't know who or where to turn to. I don't want to be responsible for affecting my children in any way for my failings at discipline.
It usually goes something like this: I ask my children to tidy their mess up and it ends up with me locking myself in a bathroom after they have attacked me verbally and physically. We are all shouting over one another and the situation is out of control. They won't listen to a word I say.
I feel like I need someone to coach me in how to gain control the right way. We end up saying awful things to each other. My children gang up on me and I've failed once again.
I'm losing on this parenting thing and need to get some help.
Has anyone been through something similar? Can anyone offer advise please?

Thanks. Sophie

You could ask your local sure start or gp surgery if there are any local parenting courses for older children.

I am by no means great at disciplining but through my years as mum and a very challenging DD I have found shouting does not work they see it as confrontation and defend themselves by copying you (shouting) I found having a box in place to confiscate things is good. You ask politely at their level a set amount of times 1-3 then if not done then phone/iPod/tv/fave toy goes in the box until they can apologise and/or do what was asked.

Thanks for responding.
I'm married to their father.
I do praise and try to instill confidence in them as I understand how important that is.
Time out hasn't worked for us with our 6 yo daughter but will work with my 7 yo son.
Consequences are that they will have something taken away until an appropriate length of time.
I just feel that everything is futile really. They are sorry for a time and then the cycle continues.
I just wish there was a formular that could be taught.