also in SN children thread:
DD is nearly 8 - she has a dyspraxia diagnosis and some resource hours at school. She is doing reasonably well at school academically (not reaching her potential, but doing fine), but I am increasingly concerned about her lack of social skills and inability to observe boundaries - some of which is anxiety/excitement based and some of which may point to ASD although this was ruled out when she was assessed.
The easiest way to explain is to give an example. This afternoon DD2 (5) had a friend over to play. DD1 spent most of the time running around, screeching, pulling at this child's clothes, getting in her face, making funny noises. DD1 "plays" a game where she just says "banana" over and over which children of her age just think is bizarre. We dropped the child back and DD1 then "played" with her older sister (in her class at school), again, getting too rough and physical, pointing her finger in the girl's face. The most frequent thing you hear when DD1 plays with people is "NO! DD1" over and over. I have spent hours and hours talking to her about this, doing role plays (which she refuses to do) etc, and whilst she often seems to understand in theory, whatever she understands deserts her when she is in the situation. It's worse if she really likes the child concerned. I'm at a total loss as to how to help her, and I can see that she is tolerated but not really included. 1:1 she can play well, co-operate etc.
School gives her learning support, but we've been offered no other support (her behaviour can be quite challenging too, she has trouble accepting rules or consequences).