Night time wetting older child

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DD is nearly 8 (next week). She had a period of a good few months at being dry at night from 6 and half onwards but is now back to wetting again. She can go a few nights without issue and then 3 or 4 nights in a row of wetting again.

I know there is a school nurse clinic she can be referred to but I know they try the alarm mats initially and nobody I've spoken to says they work .

Is it just a case of waiting this out or could there potentially be a medical issue given she's now 8?

Any advice appreciated!

I knew a girl well who at 10 was night time wetting. I felt pretty sure that a big contributing factor to this was that she was so tired at the point she went to bed that she was in such a deep sleep that she just never registered that she needed a wee. She wouldn't even wake up after she'd done it and was lying in a wet bed.

This girl was going to bed at 10pm having worked non-stop at school from 8:30am–4:30pm, then after-school dance/music, then at home she would sit down for 20 minutes for dinner and then be doing homework non-stop until 10pm. It was a fairly extreme schedule, and I think she was just absolutely shattered and nothing would wake her once she was asleep.

On the other hand I know my cousin had a problem with wetting (day and night). With him it was an anatomical problem (I think his bladder was too small) and I think he may have had surgery to improve things.

Two different scenarios there. I don't know if anything here is helpful but possibly something to consider.

DD was dry at night and then had a period where she was wetting the bed all the time. It turned out she had a urine infection and a course of antibiotics later and she was dry every night.

Go to see your GP.

Thank you both. I did have her tested for a UTI a while ago and nothing came back. Worth taking her to gp again though I think..

Definitely see your GP. We were in a very similar position with dd. I think she was 9 when we saw our GP. We were referred to our local paediatric enuresis clinic. We were already doing all the right things so went straight on to try an alarm. Dd didn't get on very well with the alarm they provided so we bought a Rodger alarm system which was better but still didn't solve the problem so she then went on to desmopressin which helped a lot as well. However, a year ago when she was just 11, some underlying issues at school came to a head and we had a meeting with school to decide how best to support dd. She has never been wet at night since!

So I would say it was a combination of interventions which all helped to solve the problem, definitely worth going to your GP but don't under estimate the power of the mind. Dd didn't appear vary stressed or worried about school but clearly she was and it had a significant effect on her symptoms.

I think she would say that the most important thing was that we didn't get stressed about the bedwetting and just supported her through it.

sidge was a poster on here who used to give excellent advice (a school nurse or health visitor I think). Not sure whether she is still around.

Hope that helps

Good luck to you & your dd.

I think she would say that the most important thing was that we didn't get stressed about the bedwetting and just supported her through it.

I would agree with this. It is very frustrating to be having to deal with wet bedding multiple times a week but it is so important not to show this.

I was an au pair and would try to wash and change the girl's bedding without the mum knowing sometimes as I couldn't bear the telling off that the girl would sometimes get But I understood why the mother was getting so frustrated with it too.

Thank you. Interesting what you say about underlying issues north...I have wondered if there is some anxiety involved. Outwardly she is very well balanced and doesn't display any signs of being upset about anything but my soon to be ex DH is a twat and manages it very badly accusing her of being lazy (i know I know.... there is a whole other thread to be written about him). She manages to stay dry when staying at grandparents, although does tend to go to bed much later as it is hols so doesn't have as many hours for her bladder to cope with. Part of me wonders if she is just less anxious though when twatty dh isn't around..

Ds 2 is our night time bed wetter. His OT suggested we increased his water intake during the day and even upto time of bed . This is to increase the size of the bladder and this making it able to hold more over night. It takes around 3 weeks to notice any improvement.
Cut out hidden caffeine in food 2 hours prior to bedtime.
It is common upto the age of 9 for children to wet the bed. Worth getting looked at but don't worry yet.
Good luck

Sorry to hijack the thread but I came on here to write a similar post about my daughter.

She's 5.5, has NEVER woken up dry. She is a deep sleeper, -always has been, unsure whether this is part of the problem.
At the moment, I'm not overly concerned, I know it's normal to take up to age 7, have upped liquids in the day (previous to this she drank very little in the day time) which as of yet (5months later) hasn't made a difference although I have noticed she's going longer between wees in the day time.

Basically, I'm wondering if there are any other tips?! Have spoken to school nurse who suggested the upping of liquids then gp.

Don't want to make an issue of it if I don't have to, don't want her to think she has a 'problem' however, -also don't want to do nothing and find out later there's an underlying issue that I ignored.

Thanks and sorry to op, hope you don't mind but didn't want two threads the same!