21month old dd lashing out at me when cross

[Lilypie]

DD is nearly 2 and her behaviour is getting more challanging.
I'm having trouble coping with her violent tantrums. If I stop her from doing something, take something away, try to change her nappy and especially if she's asking for something and I can't understand her she basically tries to hurt me in what ever way she can; pull my hair, pinch my skin, scratch and dig in her nails, punch or slap me in the face and worst of all head butts me which has given me nose bleeds she does it so hard.

Don't get me wrong she's not doing this all the time but it's getting more frequent and when I'm tired I'm close to losing my temper with her.

If I knew what reaction is most likely to nip this problem in the bud rather than make it worse I'd feel better about it. I need a plan to deal with it!
Can anyone advise me?

Can't advise you but I can sympathise my DS is 24 mnths and is quite physical. Its so easy to lose you temper when you are getting hurt. When his around my DH steps in to warn my DS about hurting me. Have you got someone who can step in occasionally to help back you up?

When she is tryinng to get her point across and gets angry - maybe you should ignore her until she calms down and is ready to 'talk' again.

I sympathysis too my dd is 14 months and has taken to hitting me in the face, it's not easy hope you find a solution/answer.

I am at home on my own with her all day so no, not really anyone to step in.
I've tried ingoring her if she hits me, I just put her down and walk away but she cries for so long it just turns into a nightmare!

I'm planning to Kama but I think she's still too little to understand the concept, she's not even 2 yet...

I have to say that my DS2 will be 2 in April and he has been on the 'time out' step on about 2 occasions in the last month...for exactly the kind of behaviour you are describing. Lashing out at nappy changing....hitting his brother. He absolutely understands what is happening and even says 'sorry'. He does get warned 3 times (typical super nanny style I am afraid) before 'time out'. I have to say IME I don't think 2 is too young to start giving 'time out' especially for the serious things that you as a family have 'zero tolerance' on. Hitting is one of ours!! Good luck with it. Terrible 2's are looming big style in our house!!!

Agree with Kama.
You might be surprised how much they understand!
I used to put my son down and come down at his level and tell him slowly and firmly that's not on. Walk away and say you'll be happy to have a cuddle when she calms down.
If too excited, hug her firmly to get message accross and then put her on the step and leave her there.
keep doing it and in a week or so, she'll get the message.