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My dd is 10 and in year 6. She is a bright girl, recently passed grammar school test for top girls grammar in the county. She was also chosen to be lead part in school play by an independent drama teacher. School teachers have nothing but good things to say about her. I love my dd and always will it's just sometimes her behaviour I don't like
DD seems to be a minimalist - I don't want to say lazy but I'm afraid it feels that way. She leaves stuff everywhere including empty crisp packets in the lounge. She is always taking short cuts to get jobs done for instance I asked her to get her younger a dd a glass of milk for bed, she found a glass of old milk and tried to give dd that instead of pouring a fresh glass of milk - admittedly the old milk should have been poured away but was an oversight. DD knew she should have got fresh milk though. Other things like putting clean clothes in the dirty laundry because she can't be bothered to put them away or wearing clothes once and putting the clothes in the dirty laundry. Until we asked her to, she would never offer to help carry the grocery shopping in - just jump out of the car and run inside, she never volunteers to help in any situation. We have set her a list of tasks such as laying the table etc. in a bid to get her to help out more. I just wonder if anyone else's dc behaves this way i.e mainly thinks of themselves would rather watch TV etc. I am trying to convince myself that this is usual 10 year old behaviour.
The second thing that has got to me recently is all the 'I wants'. Even in the supermarket she nags constantly - I do say no but she has her own pocket money (that she will do jobs for if there is money involved) she seems to spend money on rubbish, that's fine but it's the continual I want a dog, I want a pony, I want pony riding lesson - we have been taking her horse riding - a friend has helped out letting her ride over the summer for free but has stopped over winter. I want to go pony riding three times a week. I want a phone, I want a mp3 player, I want, want want. Our main topic of conversation seems to be what she wants....I can't wait for Christmas etc. She also seems to worry a lot about what children are saying at school and has got worried about her appearance, always comparing herself - apparently someone is calling her ugly, she isn't she is actually pretty and I reassure her that whoever is doing this is probably lacking confidence themselves and putting other people down. She needs to know that herself though somehow. I don't know perhaps I'm expecting too much, it just seems that parenting has got harder in some ways now she is a pre teen. I don't really have anyone in real life to bounce things off - I do have a couple of friends but they are busy and we don't sit down with a cuppa often enough to exchange notes.
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Year 6 DD - How does your dc behave?
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monkeytree · 22/11/2016 09:47
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