separation anxiety ??

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My DS of 10 months has decided over the last few months that he will not be held by anyone other than me,DH and Granny. He doesn't just cry a bit but goes absolutley hysterical. Its not like he doesn't see other people on a regular basis so I don't know where its come from and what else I can do to make it better.
I'm really worried as he's due to start nursery in a couple of months when I return to work. The way things are at the moment I just can't see him being able to go to nursery.
Please help !! Any advice would be really gratefully received.

Hi, the answer is yes.
It sounds like separation anxiety my dd went though it at that age and it lasted a month or 2.
Trouble is she's going through it now as well and she's 2.6 years old.
Really trying isn't it and worrying but they grow out of it.
Don't worry, and actually think yourself lucky that he will go with his granny and his daddy.
Some babies only want their mum.
For nursery they recommend that at first you spend about half an hour with them there so they can see you with the staff and get used and attached to them and then the next session stay for 10 minutes until you eventually go straight away.
They also recommend never to try and sneak out but instead say a quick and cheerful goodbye, and also always explain where you're taking them, how long for and what they will do there and where YOU are going and that you will pick them up later.
Perhaps someone else can advise you better as my dd never went to nursery at that age but I thought I'd reply anyway as I've just been reading up on separation anxiety for my dd and they gave advice on leaving them at nursery at your ds's age.
Good luck I'm sure he'll be fine!

this is why i went back to work when my dd's were 7.5 mths

Hi. Thanks for your replies. I really hope he grows out of it soon as it really worries me that its not just crying but hysterical crying where noone else can calm him down apart from me. Bundle - I'm not sure what you mean... did you go back to work before they started the whole separation thing ? xx

yes, I wanted them to be settled before sep anxiety actually started - but obviously after they could sit up etc by themselves. they both settled really well and had a good routine going well before they were a year old. I've never regretted it, and only worked 3 days a week.

My friend went back to work 3 days a week when her dd was 5 months old.
She was absolutely fine until the "separation anxiety" kicked in at 9 months, and she started crying everytime her mum left her.
So even if you'd gone back to work earlier it doesn't mean that your ds wouldn't have gone through this around now.
Apparently it's actually really rare if a child doesn't go through the SA, as it's a perfectly normal behaviour.