just been reduced to tears by a 6 year old don't know if i can cope anymore.

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from the minute she gets up to the minute she goes to bed her attitude is like a 16 year old. Ireally don't know what to do with her.

I have one of those too not sure how to fix it tho. have been tryingto be dead calm at all times and make sure to stick to bed time

Mine's now 7 and she's the same. You are not alone!!! I bought a book called Talking To Tweenies, it was recommended to me on another thread. It's for 8-12 yr olds but I find it really useful and relevent. What we forget is that it's quite tough being that age nowadays, with the amount of peer pressure they experience, because when we were kids it was so easy. We want them to act like mature and responsible children but don't give them the freedoms that we had at the same age. I have spent night after night crying and arguing with DH because of my dd but I can honestly say the book helps - I just read a chapter when I can, usually in bed before I go to sleep, and I have been far more reasonable with her and she has been far more reasonable with me. She told me the other day that she liked how I was acting with her and that she was glad I had bought the book!!! It's tough, but I think if you don't sort it out whilst they are still young you are on a slippery slope to a terrible time as they hit puberty. Please get the book, it's fab (and I am not one for self help books or anything like that!!!) I got it from amazon, the full title is 'Talking to Tweenies, getting it right before it gets rocky with your 8-12 year old' by Elizabeth Hartley-Brewer

thanks for that will go and have a look now
Bed time isn't a problem.

oh, me too. She's such a PITA and far more difficult than her younger sibs. I hate all the screaming and shouting (and that's her, not me), it's like living with a 15 year old.

The book looks good!

It is a really good book, I have (and am still) finding it really useful to just understand a bit more of what is going on in her head, because I always used to compare her to how I was at her age and obviously things are so different these days. Just little things like letting her help me choose an outfit for her instead of dictating her wardrobe. I know how I want her to dress but it's not how she wants to look. If we compromise we have less arguments. Tomorrow is non uniform day and if I straighten her hair for her she will wear jeans. A few weeks ago we would battle over it because I would say 'this is what you are wearing, I am in charge, so there'. Now she's wearing exactly what we would have argued about but she thinks it's her choice because I told her I'd do her hair for her in the morning and she feels all grown up! (she has really curly hair and hates it, even though it is beautiful). We also have a rewards system where she gets housepoints for good behaviour and when she gets 20 she can go and buy a toy of her choice. She wants the toy so she will help me out with her brother or doing her homework without arguing just to get a housepoint. Sometimes I feel sorry for her because the amount of homework she gets is (IMO) ridiculous and she works hard all day at school to get another hour when she gets home. But that's just the way things are, I suppose. And don't even get me started on the amount of kids at her school with mobile phones....

I have made a real effort not to shout when she came home from school but she is just o demanding and stubborn everything has got to be her way or not at all
She will say things like if you give me ..... I will eat my tea.
Her favourite saying at the moment is I HATE YOU and she says it with so much anger

I get that all the time, and 'you are so mean to me, you don't love me'. She has, however, been so much better recently (with the help of my book - I'm plugging it like crazy but I am really so impressed!). We haven't had a slammed door so far this week...I'm sure one will come but so far, so good!

it sounds like you are talking about my dd. Suppose i will go and buy the book