Selective stranger anxiety at 5 months??????????????

[justJAMtarts]

I know I posted on this some weeks ago but it's still an issue and I thought maybe someone else that has been through similar may be able to cheer me up and tell me it does get better.
DD, over the last 6 weeks, has started to cry, and I mean really cry at certain people, one being my mum who she used to love being with. My mum has only ever been lovely and has always fed, bathed and looked after DD when she visits (usually once a week) but now even if she looks at DD and speaks DD gets in a right state.

I honestly don't know why this has happened. She has begun to do it to one of my friends too, who was previously fine with.
My mum is heartbroken (first and only grandchild) and it upsets me so much to see her come all the way to see her (they don't live nearby) and to be so upset that DD won't even look at her.

I feel even worse at the last time I felt upset with DD and then felt really guilty as it's not her fault. She is fine with other people as long as they don't get in her space, lol, can anyone advise me the best way to try and help DD feel more at ease with my mum?????

TIA

anyone?

Oh no, that sounds awful. My DS started doing this with some strangers, usually women , at around 4 months. I've noticed it's always when he's restrained in some way - ie in his car seat, his pushchair, supermarket trolley, etc. It also happens if someone different appears when he's expecting me or DH (hence he's done it to my dad and my brother). I haven't any suggestions really as DS is still doing it I'm afraid. Does your DD carry on the whole time your mum's there or is it just at first?

I think they all go through phases of this and then grow out of it for a while.
Try not to be anxious, she probably feels this and responds to it by wanting to be with you.

Thanks for answering. DD os okish when mum and dad are here as long as they completely ignore her and I mean completely
I do try not be be anxious as I was worried that this could set her off...I know I need to be aware and try harder.
How old is your DS twinkle?

Aww bless her
dd did it with certain men up to about 1 year old (she hated my brother for instance...went balistic as soon as he entered the room)

We generally made a joke out of it for my brothers sake (think he felt horrible) and i generally tried to spend a lot of time in close proximity to my brother but holding dd very tightly myself.

She was still wary up to about 18 months or so...and tbh she is a very self aware and fairly shy little girl (she's 4 now)

No magic answers (sorry) but lots of sympathy...it will pass

Thanks troutpout....It's good to hear it passes - is your DD ok with your brother now?

yes...she's fine with him...usually jumps on him when she sees him !

really normal and will pass

(my dear goddaughter is just growing out of throwing a wobbler everytime she sees me - despite the fact that I see her a couple of times a week AND have babysat her obvernight twice)

She'd better grow out of it soon, or there'll be no nice presents at xmas...

She will usually stop crying as long as her mum holds her and then will smile at me, giggle etc, but woe betide anyone but mum holds her...

honestly thank you so much, does make me feel better to know that it's normal and will pass
lol @ pressies at x mas

DS is 6 months justJAMtarts. I often wonder if it could be a personality thing, even at this young age. DH and I are both shy (I was painfully shy as a child) and I wonder if DS will be the same.

thanks twinkle - the strange thing is DD is only like it with certain people - others she grins away and is v relaxed
DH is very social...I'm not shy but am a bit of a hermit, like being at home in own space..If it was anyone but my mum I wouldn't be so upset I really hope it passes soon.

I hope so too JAM.

thanks twinkle, really

just popping in to give you another big >>>

Oh lully, you truly are a sweetie

thank you
xxx