Is it worth buying this book?

[Bomper]

I am experiencing ongoing behavioural problems with my 9 year old son, and am at the end of my tether!! Am thinking about buying 'Raising Boys' by Steve Biddulph, for some tips on how to deal with him. But before I fork out any money (am pretty skint at the mo) I wondered if any of you have read it, and if so, was it useful to you? TIA

Why don't you see if they have it in your local libary? It is a very well know, popular book, so they may have it.
I have read it and it was quite useful, I have two boys, I should probably go back to it though, as I also have a 9 year old who is being a bit tricky.
What type of problems are you having? I can check the index of the book and see if it covers it.

Thanks, good idea, I never thought of the library - doh!!

Well, where do I start with ds?!! He is only happy if he is on his Gamecube/computer, I have limited it to 1 hour a day, but the rest of his time is spent lolling around, moaning at and being aggressive towards his sisters, crying if things go wrong (he's 9 ffs!), saying I only ever tell him off not his sisters (I am not going to tell them off if they haven't done anything!!!) - oh and his latest one is basically if I don't let him have his own way he will run away. The last time he said this I answered 'Let me know where you end up then!!' Not very productive I know but I had had enough by then!!

Just looked in my book collection and can't find it! sorry to be so useless, it must be in this house somewhere.
I do have another of his books "The complete secrets of happy children" and I think what he says isn't rocket science, but it does give you a focus to work on one problem at a time.
I find that sometimes it feels like everything is going wrong and I get rather stressed out by my boys, when in fact, when I pull the bahaviour apart, it isn't that bad, but I need to focus on the bit that is really driving me mad.
How is your son at school? Is he doing ok or does he find it difficult.
I know that with my 9 yr old, some of his behaviour is because he finds school hard and he feels like a failure, so he can be really bossy and assertive with his younger brother.
He also says I am not fair and tell him off more than his brother.
He hasn't tried to leave home yet though.

I loved it!

i have it if you want to borrow it email me at southeastastra at hotmail dot com if you like.

Thank you southeastastra that's really kind of you. isgrassgreener, ds is doing really well at school and when others look after him (grandparents,aunts,friends) they all go on about how wonderful he is, how well behaved, polite and chatty he is, and how he's a pleasure to have around. He seems to reserve the yucky behaviour for his nearest and dearest it seems!! Little buggar!!

Bomper, could be my ds going by your description. Let me know if you get any good tips from that book. I'm in Germany but I could do with a book to help. My ds is such a good quiet school boy - at school, but at home he gets bored and won't busy himself with anything except nintendo. We limit it to an hour aswell and TV isn't a problem (german TV is really bad so not a temptation anyway). Dh has threatened to take the nintendo to his office and lock it in his drawer if ds doesn't buck his ideas up but that was at the weekend so up to now he has been OK but I would love to know why he is like he is at home and in school he's the perfect pupil or outside in general with other people. What have we done to deserve it? He also bothers his sister and they and up fighting.