Not listening

[Onawheel]

Ok, so I know that children often don't listen to anything that is asked of them but it is getting out of hand here.

Dc1 & dc3 listen to almost everything and are v good at sorting all their own stuff out (I know, I am v lucky).

However dc2 is in a world of his own. Seriously, he doesn't hear anything I ask of him. I have tried not shouting, explaining, getting his attention etc etc and I am now at my wits end and find myself lying on my bed and crying about how frustrating I find his not listening to anything.

Any tips? Please?

Age?

Sorry should have said. He is 8 and a lovely, kind and loving boy in every other way. No SN. Behaves really well in school and is known for being a great listener in the classroom. I am truly at end of my tether at home though.

Lists!
Ds just about 8 is never happier than when he has a list of 'jobs' to get through!

Good call. Will give that a go. What about routine stuff though...like wash your face/brush your teeth??

Maybe as the middle child it's his way of getting attention?

It's unlikely but have you got his hearing checked? Friends of my parents were at their wits end with their kid who wouldn't listen, then one day my parents were with them at the zoo & the kid ran off & didn't stop when they shouted & mum realised he clearly couldn't hear them when they were far away & behind him!

He might be OK in a classroom situation b/c it's face-to-face.

Hearing has been checked - only because my nephew did have that problem.

It could be an attention thing but i do try and be careful not to make him the middle child. I think it's because he just doesn't have the same priorities.

He doesn't care that his teeth aren't brushed. He cares that his Lego is finished.

I just don't know how to get through to him.

I am trying the list thing today.

Thanks for replies so far.

Daytime bump