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SHE MUST HATE ME!

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MollyMooMin · 04/02/2007 08:21

It's started to really upset me now, but my DD is just 2 and has stopped showing me any affection whatsoever! She's all over her dad when he goes to work, but when it's my turn to go in the evenings, she just says, "go mummy!", no kiss or anything. Does anyone else experience this?

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compo · 04/02/2007 08:23

oh yes, all the time. ds only wants mummy if no one else is about
I'm hoping it's yet another phase but it's been going on for ages...

NAB3 · 04/02/2007 08:27

Quite normal. They take us for granted as we are there all the time but when new exciting daddy comes home after a day with just mummy, it is much more exciting. Just see it as time off and let them get on with it. The novelty will soon wear off.

WigWamBam · 04/02/2007 08:28

She doesn't hate you.

I'm willing to bet that she sees more of you than her daddy, so he's a novelty. I'm also willing to bet that because she sees more of you, you do more of the discipline stuff, so she sees daddy as doing the fun stuff.

I'll bet it's you she runs to when she hurts herself.

katelyle · 04/02/2007 08:38

When my ds was two he looked me very seriously in the face and said "I love you, mummy" Cue great soppiness from me - but he hadn't finished. He went on "But I love daddy, Grandma, Gracie and the kittens more"

I think I've moved up the pecking order past the kittens now (they're grown up cats and not so fascinating as they were) but daddy's still there at the top.

Our capacity for love is enormous - just because she loves her daddy doesn't mean she doesn't love you. But if she doesn't see as much of him as she does of you, she needs to do what we used to call "topping up her daddy tank" Try to be thankful she's not clinging to you and she has a lovely relationship with him. It'll change - family dynamics are always shifting - my ds likes me better than the cats now!

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MollyMooMin · 04/02/2007 09:41

Thanks everyone. Feel abit better now!

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paulaplumpbottom · 04/02/2007 11:48

You do the work he gets the glory. I know how you feel.

meowmix · 04/02/2007 11:56

Poor DH gets this (He's SAHP). When I get home I seem to have a three year old strapped to me. I can't remember my last unaccompanied shower, and now plan my toilet breaks during the day so I don't have the fascinated audience of one all the time. DH is treated with remarkable disdain ("No Daddy, not YOU...")

Last night he was so desparate to kiss me goodnight (4th time at 3am) that he ran from his bedroom, into ours, round to my side of the bed and headbutted me at speed as a result of which I have a bruise across my nose and eyes.

Love hurts!

crayon · 04/02/2007 13:34

So true Paulaplumpbottom

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