My DD is having some development issues, since she started school last year that its been more apparent. She's 5, she is restless or inattentive a lot of the time, She often has issues falling to sleep she says her brain cannot switch off. She struggles to listen to instructions and then to carrying out them instructions. She cant keep still and you start off talking to her thinking she's listening then its very apparent when her eye contact drops off and she goes into space (as I call it or into her own world eg we think she is thinking about something else at this point). Its very hard to bring her back and often when I ask her what I've said she's no idea. It affects her day to day life.
She's really bright which is hard to believe sometimes she's an excellent reader in class and once she is concentrating she absorbs information like a sponge she can tell you about things in the past she often talks about and remembers peoples names after meeting them once so its not a memory thing.
It all comes down to concentration She's been referred and it went to a council made up of 12 doctors, paediatricians, psychologists they decided it was in her best interests for it to be investigated further. They have mentioned ADHD a few times throughout the process but its a long process.
Sometimes when she isn't listening to me or doesn't listen to other adults in certain situations people think that she is a really naughty and not listening on purpose but she genuinely is not being naughty, after spending some time with her it's apparent that it's brain function or something like that she has no idea what's been going on in that time she's switched off. I can honestly tell when it's being naughty because she will quite obviously say no or huff/sigh rather than not listening if it's something she does not want to do.
It's putting a strain on my relationship as my partner has Dcs of his own but often forgets my DD has these issue and sometimes he feels like she's doing it on purpose. We have been together since she was little but he said so himself he needs help understanding it because it's hard to live with without understanding exactly what it is and how we can help or make changes to make it easier for her and us. I have perhaps been to harsh on him but I have told him if he cannot see/ get through this with me then I will have no choice but to do it alone as DD has to come first and he understands this and has told me he wants to work on seeking advice and help.
We are currently receiving no help and I really need assistance but it seems that until DD is over 6 we will not get any assistance :( It feels a long way off. I've cried myself to sleep for weeks because she has got so much worse since school has started again and we have to be places within a certain time and shes had issues at school regarding instructions they know but have been no help to us.
I am sorry its so long I wanted to explain as best I could and not to drip feed.