3 months old & constantly crying when awake - any help or advice appreciated!

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Hi,
My DD is 12 weeks old (although was 5 weeks prem) and one of twins. For the past 4 weeks or so she has developed a real aversion to bed-time. I'm lucky in that her brother is an excellent sleeper (so far) and really seems to "get" that bath/low lights/no talking etc. means "sleep". DD however, thinks it means time to wake up and absolutely hates it. Every night, she screams. Every night we sooth her at intervals. She generally goes off to sleep after between half an hour and an hour and a half. This is on top of all the crying/wingeing during the day. Seems that when she is awake she is crying. Carrying her around all the time is not what I want to do - not least because I think it's really unfair on her brother. I think maybe she hates being a baby...or me...or both!
I'd really welcome any advice. Is it normal ? (the crying isn't pained crying and I always check for wind/hunger/dirty nappies).
Wonder if anyone else has experienced the same thing ? Maybe she will grow out of it ?

Hi, my ds is now 14 weeks and have found that for the past couple of weeks that he seems to get anxious if he cannot see me, really cries if I leave the room etc. I read somewhere that some babies just seem to need close contact for reassurance!

Hi, my ds is now 14 weeks and have found that for the past couple of weeks that he seems to get anxious if he cannot see me, really cries if I leave the room etc. I read somewhere that some babies just seem to need close contact for reassurance!

hi,
my ds is now 20 weeks and it has been what feels like 20 weeks of crying. am always the mum at post-natal groups etc. that is having to pace the room etc. wuth a screaming baby- so much so that i've only just recently had the courage to start going and still often have to leave feeling v.demoralised! i have however just had the best week yet with him and whilst i know this will change again, its been so lovely and i feel like i can enjoy him properly for the first time. it also shows me that theres light at the end of the tunnel. hes smiling more and starting to giggle which is just wonderful. what im trying to say, is that things have drastically improved and will hopefully continue to do so and i can totally sympathise with what youre going through- one day we'll have contented little babies that lie on their playmats leaving us a bit more hands-free.fingers crossed!!!

should have added that also finding things are much improved now that he is more interested in what is around him. he is able to reach up and touch things and his neck is now stronger which means that i can put him in a door bouncer which he loves-for short spells. dont know if youve got one, but bought excellent bouncy chair that vibrates and has pully things hanging down and a bird that spins. got it in mothercare for about £25 and has been a godsend! think its a fisherprice make. has meant i could have shower, get dresses- all the things i couldnt do when he needed to be in my arms all the time.

loadsanappies, I think 12 weeks is the peak time for what is called 'colic' when babies cry alot. I went through similar although I had only one baby to deal with, it is very wearing and frustrating.

Have you got a sling you could carry her round in, and at the same time tend to her brother and get on with other things. Does she stop crying when she is held or rocked?

some advice here that might help

dd did grow out of the constant crying by about 4-5months but has continued to be a very demanding baby who doesnt sleep well and needs carrying around alot

we also used cranial osteopathy which calmed her down a bit