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Please help - 3.5 year old wetting pants constantly

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Squiggles86 · 15/08/2016 19:32

Hi,

Really hope someone can help with this. We did initial potty training in October last year which went fairly well. No accidents after 3 weeks. Until December when she started wetting. We put her back in nappies and started again in Feb. All went well then started up again in April. She's been wetting roughly 5 times a day since although she's dry on nursery days (until she gets home that is).

The problem is mainly at home. I suspect it's when she's bored as she tends to be better when we're out for the day. She gets bored easily and I simply cannot (and will not) entertain her constantly while at home. I have a 1 year old to look after too. She can do it when there's a consequence to her wetting. E.g. today I said if you wet your pants we're going straight home from friends house (who had a bouncy castle). Miraculously she was completely dry and went to the toilet while there.

She doesn't respond to any type of reward system and it can even make it worse . Seems to highlight the problem to her almost. We have been completely ignoring her wetting for 2 months now bar telling her to get changed and it's just not working.

I'm at the end of my tether now. I just cant put up with the washing and this controlling behaviour any longer. We cant go anywhere without worrying that she's going to wet herself (ruin other people's carpets etc)

Has anyone got any suggestions? We've had our hv out 3 times but they don't have anything to suggest.

Thanks

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SpeakNoWords · 15/08/2016 22:46

You probably already are, but are you reminding her to go to the toilet regularly and taking her there after a reasonable amount of time even if she says she doesn't want to go?

Squiggles86 · 15/08/2016 23:06

Hi,

We stopped reminding her for a long while unless we were leaving the house because it made it worse. I think the constant reminding just irritated her. She simply refuses to go if I insist and taking her there against her will would be near impossible. She does go at nursery without prompting.

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MiaowTheCat · 17/08/2016 16:37

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