My dd has the makings of a little monster!

[ELF1981]

My DD is nearly 16 months old. She is an only child. She goes to a childminder daily, she is the youngest there.
She's happy and funny, she is a contented little soul.
At her birthday there were quite few kids, and my friends little girl is six weeks older. My DD was pushing her around a bit, snatching things from her etc. I didn't think much of it as it was in our house (well, my parents) so I thought she was just being terotorial.
But I now fear she has the makings of a little monster! Today the CM was doing a trial for a new baby, well, he is 18 months. My DD refused to let him touch any of the toys, snatched things out of his hands, pushed him etc.
Will she ever learn to share? I know she is very young, but I hate the thought of her "picking" on other kids! I have visions of her pushing her sibling around whenever DH and I get around to having another one!

Am also having traumas with my dd (15mo). Was complaining to someone the other day that I was beside myself and they laughed! She bites, has screaming tantrums, refuses to be dressed or undressed, hits other children, will only feed herself then won't have a single mouthful. Plus she is deaf, so if she hurts someone and I sign to her, she closes her eyes to avoid being told off. Have no advice I'm afraid (although your dd WILL learn to share - it's just a matter of when!) but just wanted to let you know you are not the only one at the mo.Maybe, this means we won't get the terrible 2s....?

lol - I am dreading the terrible 2's if this is anything to go by! Nice to know I'm not the only one with a little tantrum thrower!

It's just sad as she's usually such a happy soul, but she's getting stroppy when not getting her own way (ie if I take my mobile phone off her, she'll scream) and the sharing issue - I always feel a little embarassed when she's pushing other kids around but she's only 16 months so its hard to do anything about it!

Elf, this is soooo normal. My DS1 is 2.8, and we still have the "sharing issue", and I find it's actually worse with those children he knows well and spends a lot of time with. I remember when he was about 16 months, he would often push etc. - they are trying out their strength, and I think all you can do is keep telling them no, and reinforcing sharing. They'll get it one day! We spend a lot of time with one of my friends and her DS, and we spend most of our time saying "it's L's turn to ride the trike/push the trolley/play with Thomas now. It will be J's turn again in 2 minutes".

Don't see it as picking on the other children - at 16 months, they don't play together, if you're lucky, they'll play individually side by side (for a few minutes!). See it as a normal stage/phase that will pass.

phew! thank you for the reassurance!