Why has my DS 4.5yrs deliberatlely had a wee behing the sofa !!!!!!

[mummydear]

He is more than capable to going to the toilet himself and is at school . He did a similar thing some months ago and weed agianst the wall in the front room. I am so bloody annoyed with him. WHY HAS HE DONE THIS !!!

I am ranting on here otherwise I will rant and shout at him.

The consequnece of his actions is that he is not having a bath tonighnt, he loves baths.

Why does he do it he has been toilet trained since 2.8ys and dry at night ?

Weeing in inappropriate places after a child is toilet trained is a form of aggression. Consciously or subliminally they know it will make parents v angry. I remember once
dd2 refusing the toilet at the end of preschool and two minutes later wetting herself on the slide. When I sounded off about this to a couple of other mothers who were there, one said her 4 year old would vomit at will! (I know which I'd prefer!)

Is there a younger sibling around, or on the way?

Are there any other big changes in his life now or on the horizon?

I know it's massively irritating, but at least it's just weewee (could be worse).

Thanks for replying .

No changes in his life. he is the younger of two boys . I suppose the only major chnage is that he is now in school full time sinec Christmas but part from that all is the same.

It did make me very annoyed with him, understandably so - I hope .

At least as you say , it was only wee wee. otherwise I think he would have blamed the cat !!

Hope it doesn't happen again, but if it does you could make a big thing about clearing it up and make him help you (or at least be there, watching and not having any fun).

Full time school is a big restriction on their freedom - suddenly most of their day is taken up doing what the teacher tells them. Maybe he was mourning his loss of infancy! Don't know what you can do about that though.