19 MONTH OLD THROWING THINGS AT TABLE AND HITTING

[frenziednester]

ds2 is a nightmare at mealtimes - throws things on the floor time and time again - cup, cutlery, food, all in sheer temper. makes DS1 v annoyed (3 yrs) as he is not allowed to do it, and every discipline thing I have tried has no effect. he has also started to hit DS1 really hard with the sharpest toy he can find), which again he is impervious to time out about - just says 'funny' over and over again. He was such a lovely baby - so affectionate - have I got a monster for life (DS1 was much easier to parent than this, although I didn't realise it at the time)?

sounds likem my 16 month old charge (who has a 4 year and 1 week old brother)

drives me insane

im just looking forward to easter when i hope he will be old enough to have 1 minute on the step if he cant behave.

sometimes he has a HUGE strop when put in his high chair... he gets removed from his high chair and put in the hall by himself.

generally if he starts to throw things i take everything off his high chair tray (nothing to throw) if he behaves very badly i turn the highchair around 180Degrees so he cant see us... nornallyh only for abput 30 seconds

often he calms down enough to eat some more nicely

sometime he doesnt, in which case i assume he cant be that hungry and i get him down... normally for him to have a huge tantrum cause now he wants to be in his high chair!!

just tell youself its all just a phase and i few months it will have sopped!

bumping - please!!!! any ideas????

put ds in his cot and let him have time out. tell him off and then ignore him, and make a fuss of ds1. Ignoring really does the trick for my dd. She is a vicious little troll at times, and it is usually out of frustration, and she will grab the face of the nearest child. It is heart breaking and makes you feel like staying home all the time. You'll just have to watch him like a hawk and remain consistent untill it stops. hth a little, but I do share your pain

I'm with you with the food throwing. Our angelic dd2 (18 mo) becomes a hideous creature of rage at meal times. If she doesn't fancy what I have given her (or when she has had enough) that's it....every single item on her tray is flung at the wall.

I tried the turning the chair round 180 degrees but that just made the rage last longer.

Now we just hold her hands and say NO, WE DON'T THROW FOOD then we take her out of the high chair and put her in the play room. She's too young to enforce time out, so when she pootles back into the kitchen we all ignore her. She isn't allowed back up at the table.

I keep telling myself this wont last forever...that or my kitchen curtains will take up a permanent rice krispie texture.

thank you very much! I have ordered it. Hope is there......

my DD2 is 16m and can be difficult at mealtimes and hits DD1 (almost 3) often too...

DD1 is gentle and very kind to her, and just gets upset when she is clunked with some new toy or other. I take them away "no"... she is beginning to understand. At mealtimes i have actually found she eats better/behaves better sitting on a stool at the breakfast bar rather than at their little table.

i keep telling myself "it's a phase" "it's a phase" - thing is i don't remember DD1 being like this?! (then again i was pg and very ill so maybe it just passed me by.......)

no, i agree, DS1 wasn't like this at all, but then taking my rose coloured glasses off, he just didn't eat at this stage at all, so mealtimes were quite clean (searching hard for the silver lining in that little parenting episode!) I guess as well he had me all to himself and didn't need to assert himself, compete for attention, or rush as it didn't matter what time things were finished.