I have an almost 3yo DD who, like any normal toddler has tantrums.
Generally we’re doing quite well helping her express herself and learn coping strategies before she goes into full meltdown, but there’s one specific behaviour I’m struggling with. When she gets really angry (usually because she’s done something I asked her not to, and I followed through on the promised consequence) she will just throw whatever is closest on the ground or, if she is by a table, just sweep everything on the table onto the floor in a fit of fury. We’ve had a couple of close calls with hots cups of tea or glasses, and I would like to help her develop some different ways to express her anger that don't put her or our things at risk.
She and I had a good conversation after the latest incident. I asked her whether throwing all her toys on the floor had helped her feel better. She said no, so I asked whether that meant it was a good thing or a bad thing to do, and she agreed it was a bad thing.
I then said that when she feels angry she could try running into her bedroom or the living room, hitting the mattress or the sofa and shouting “I’m angry” to help her calm down. She thought this was hysterical and spent several minutes practising in fits of giggles.
Has anyone successfully dealt with similar, or tried anything like this? Thanks!