15 month old..... temper tantrums

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My 15 month old has awful tantrums, when he doesn't get his own way he hits me or throws toys at me and dh.
I have tried to ignore this behaviour but it seems to make matters worse.

Any tips anyone?

??? Is there a book I can read??

try toddler taming it is a great book.

As far as tips go I think ignoring is probably the right thing to do and found with my twins that it did make it worse initially, but you have to hold your nerve - I think that is why it works in the end as they realise that poor behaviour won't get them attention

Thanks lapinrose, I will give that a read.

I am going through exactly the same thing. DS is 16 mnths and is soooooooo frustrated and...horrid at the moment! Have tried ignoring and shouting. hate me for shouting so go back to ignoring.Think i need to read the book!

No advice red, sorry. Just sypathy because my nearly 14 mo DD has just started having tantrums. She actually lies on the floor and kicks her legs if she doesn't get her own way. At the moment I just try to distract her with something else, but don't know if that tactic will last much longer!

The Social Toddler is a very good book

I think at this age they are not behaving badly but just have no more effective way of expressing their frustration and other emotions - they are not capable of understanding others points of view so when you take something off them or refuse something it seems very very unfair and frustrating

Just gently repeating 'no hitting please' as if you were explaining something to someone who didnt know this already and explain why you have thwarted him, and comforting him during the upset might work better than ignoring for your ds?

what do I know though? I have a very tantrum-prone dd aged 14months - but I was expecting this as she was a very strong-willed baby

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Have similar situation with 21 month dd, she throws herself on the floor, headbutts the door throws things and slaps us! she's been doing this since about 14 months so it does last a while i'm afraid but she does seem to be having less of these 'do's' latley. Ignoring seems to work for a while but when she got to 18months we started to use 'the naughty step' she still isn't quite old enough to understand, i don't think but what else can you do???

ds2 is 15 months and quite an expert head-butter if he doesn't get his own way! Will head-but people, furniture, tiled floor whatever is closest to hand.

If he head-butts a person he gets put next to the naughty step (for ds1's benifit really) anything else and we just tend to step over him and carry on.

my nearly 16mo DS just started this the other day. Such fun! if he wants to walk in a certain direction and we stop him he just lies down. when we try to put him back in his buggy he goes nuts!
i'm sick of it already and it's only been a few days!!

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purplemonkey, dd is exactly the same. she has just started wanting to walk outdoors or in shops. she will hold my hand at first for about 2 minutes and then decides she is going to let go and walk a different way. When she refuses to come with me and I go to pick her up she makes her body go in shapes that are really difficult to hold and tries to lie down on the floor. Yesterday it happened in the middle of Marks and Sparks and I had to strap her into the pushchair very much against her will because the alternative was a huge freakout in the middle of menswear. What's frustrating me is that she needs at some point to learn to walk holding my hand but because each attempt lasts a minute only, the learning is going to be very very slow!

i got one of them backpack doodahs and it worked a treat today at the mall.

whats a backpack doodah?

backpack doodah (not the technical term!)

aha - think that would swamp my dd - maybe in a few months tho - good idea