controlled crying - hand hold please!

[LariyahSpen]

Hello

Just a hand hold really...going into my second night with a 13 month old doing controlled crying and just feel a knot of anxiety about the night stretching ahead of me and what will be in store

Have had a bad sleeper since she was born really but has been getting progressively worse since her first birthday I would say, to the point I've just spent nights crying so me and my partner decided two days ago enough is enough!

Had him here with me last night and it was awful, I just feel such a bad mum and want to cry hearing my daughter breaking her heart it's just awful. My partner is away tonight and I am actually scared I will give in!

She went down tonight after 20 minutes of crying but tonight is her first night where she won't get a bottle in the night so I am dreading it - I think she's been using it as comfort and not due to being hungry as she just cries after when I leave the room anyway.

Last night was our first night, she cried on and off every hour until she slept for two hours from 3-5am but it was pretty awful.

I hope we can crack this because none of us can go on and it's started effecting my partners work and my daughter is constantly over tired!

I'm praying it works.

Anyone got any advice or experience I would really appreciate it!

Thank you x

The night at your mums should be fine, it's much easier to keep your normal bedtime routine in another house than it would be in a hotel, I don't think other hotel guests would appreciate CC. Is your mum aware of what you are trying to do? If not let her know beforehand she will probably ( for the best of intentions want to help/ interfere) you need to keep to what you have been doing. She may find it hard not to rush to her darling granddaughter if she hears her crying in the night but it won't help you all in the long run. I hope you have a wonderful time at her christening

Well done OP! That really is success!
As itmust says, it'll be fine at your mum's and won't undo all your hard work if you stick with her routine. I went to stay with DstepF for a week around 2 weeks after starting CC. We did have tears and had to go back to timed intervals for the first couple of nights, but it was short-lived and no where near as bad as the beginning.

Oh dear!!! I think I spoke too soon. We are on night 7 of cc and she has been up every hour seemingly for the heck of it!! I have been in and out of that room about 12 times since I went to bed at 11pm.

Still doing cc and hoping it's better tomorrow night

Kill me now

Is this normal??

Is she teething? CC never worked for us as DS was either ill or teething from 8-18 months. It was a nightmare and I was so exhausted but there wasn't much I could do as sleep training never worked.

It's normal for sleep to become awful again if they are ill/teething/bout of separation anxiety kicks in etc. If there was/is a 'reason' for the wakings (so not just 'ooo, I fancy a cuddle and another book') we stop the intervals and stay with her until she is settled/the calpol kicks in whenever she calls us. When she's back on her feet we return to business as usual.
I'd be checking for signs of teething today, and her temperature before bed.

If it's any consolation, when we converted DD's cot into a bed, she slept through for the first time ever for the first few days, we were amazed and thought our luck had finally turned. Then she got a stinking cold and we were back to square one for a week