Eight month check

[LRWG]

Just waited one and a half hours in a drafty reception to see the HV for my DD's eight month check. DD was tired, pissed-off and hungry and wouldn't play ball. Now having to have check at home next week. For some reason stupidly worried!

Rant over, sorry!

i don't think you HAVE to have it do you? unless you have concerns of course.

is an 8 month check normal? i thought you have a 9 month.
My DS is 9 months next week and was wondering if the HV will contact me, or if i have to contact them?

Why are you worried? Both my kids had there 8 month check at home - it makes sense to me do it there. Please don't worry, she'll pass with flying colours in her home environment.

Nip, they usually contact you but it wouldn't hurt just to push them along.

Think I'm just a worrier by nature. DD can do most of the things the HV said she'll want her to do, but gets a bit shy around other people and tends to no be very good at the "performing seal" act. For example, she babbles non-stop to DH and I but is pretty quiet around others.

There is one area of worry. The only thing the HV did manage to check today was her hips and that the creases on her legs line up. She said that the creases are assymetrical and that DD needs to see the doctor. DD would also not weight bear and to be honest never has. If you stand her on your lap she just pulls her legs up. HV said she would not discharge DD until she did everything.

I think my main problem is that DH and I know that we have a happy healthy baby and I don't want a HV saying otherwise in her notes. DD is fine, am just worried that the HV will think she's not if she refuses to perform on the day. God, if I'm like this now what will I be like when she does her SATs? Will I be one of those insane mothers storming up to school saying, "how dare you say my daughter is average - she's wonderful"? LOL

Does any of that make sense or shall I go hide in a hole?

Sorry - Thank you ladies!

Ds also wouldn't weight-bear at his 8 month check or the repeat of it a month later. Was forced to take him to gp (said she would phone every day until I'd taken him! - dh and I weren't concerned about him at all) who looked at me like I was mad and started talking about how it was only natural to worry overly much as a first-time parent but each child developed at their own rate ..... blah blah. Was livid at hv and not seen them since. Think they deliberately mislead you about how much attention you're obliged to pay them.

thank you yomellamoHelly! I think you're right there!

Took DD to doctor's to get her hips checked this morning and she's been referred for a scan to check all is well. GP is 99% sure everything is okay so I am not too worried.

Poor DH - I've got to go to the breast clinic for tests this week as I have a lump in my right breast (have had several before - always cysts, so am trying not to worry) and now DD has to go for scans on her hips. I think the poor man feels like his girls are falling apart on him

When I took my dd for her 9 month check she referred her as she wouldn't weight-bear, I explained that she did at home and because she was breach she was booked for a routine appointment at the hospital to check her hips anyway. At the hospital appointment everything was fine, the doctor said he tell straight away there wasn't anything wrong with her hips.

Good luck with yours and dds tests.

Thanks kslatts - it's nice to hear the voice of experience.

LRWG - relate sooooo much re DD not being good at performing seal act, my DD is so different in front of others and she's only 18 weeks!!! Good to hear GP thinks everything is ok, I have paediatric appointment at the end of the month and I know I won't stop worrying until it's been and gone and all is ok. Also am sure all will be fine with the lump, I too have suffered with cysts (breast and ovary) and it is hard not to worry but I'm sure all is ok...hark at me...it's like everything you say I'm all "me too" hope It doesn't come accross like that, just wanted to let you know I relate and wish you well

Thanks! You've not come over as "me too" at all! As I said to kslatts - the voice of experience is ever welcome here.

Oh I sympathise. My DS never did anything on target. I nearly went mad with the stress I was put under by "concerned" HVs. I even got referred to a paed once who kept asking "sorry but why am I seeing your son?" He's nearly 5 now and walks & talks like the rest of them. He was breech at birth & they did this clicky hip test soon afterwards to check everything was ok. Don't they do that now? Good luck with everything, don't let them wear you down!

And, IMO, even the most advanced babies I knew at 8 months failed to perform on the day!

Good luck with your own tests too

Thank you! I'm trying not to worry too much about my tests - I've been there several times before, but somehow it's massively different now that we have DD. A well, at least I get the results the same day

Went to the hospital today and the lump was just a cyst, as I'd thought. They drained all the yucky stuff off and discharged me! Yippee!!

DD's scan has come through for the end of the month, so not too long to wait.

Just got to get through the eight month check tomorrow and it'll be a good weekend!