My 8 year old son used to struggle a little socially. He was very reserved and didn't seem to like joining in with the boys, he cried and sulked easily.
He is now a lot more talkative, and has a close group of friends. In fact he doesn't stop talking now.
He can sometimes have a moan and shout when he doesn't get his way and he loves computer games while his friends do like it too, they are happy also to do imaginative play. My son does too at school but he would choose computer over play if he had a choice.
Recently he has become really agressive at home and he finally opened up to me that sometimes his friends would leave him out, telling him they want to alone time, to play without him. He said it didn't bother him much and he'd go and play with someone else. He said it seems to happen to him more than others and it's 2 of his closer friends who do this and the rest of the boys usually follow leaving him to play with other people he doesn't r normally play with. Tonight he tells me that it happened 2 days ago while he was happily playing with them, suddenly they told him they are not going to play with him and all of the group walked away. He sat on a bench for the rest of the play time.
These are boys who often come to our house to play and that I thought all was good. Thing is my son does tend to not share as nicely as others. His friends could do something nice for him and he wouldnt return the favour. Sometimes he could talk and sound rude too.
I feel really hurt for what he might be feeling, I feel so sad :(
I see this as bullying, has anyone else got any advise? I don't want to interfere as I'd like my son to figure it out himself but at the same time I don't want it to carry on and turn into any physical bullying.
I spoke to the teacher but asked him not to talk with my son or the 2 boys as I wanted to let him sort out his own friendships. Am I doing the right thing? His teacher hasn't noticed anything but said he'd keep eye on them.