"why dont they like me mummy"

[melsy]

was the words coming out of my 3 yr old dd1's mouth after being pushed twice by different girls at soft play yesterday. All the way home she was sad and dejected despite me saying she was a lovely girl and if she gets pushed again to say she doesnt like it and walk away. I said not all children behave nicely . I was upset to have that kind of convo. She is a bubbly , confidant independant spirit and i dobt want it taken by bullying. I spent my life dealing with it from the age of 5 .

thats sad

i would just reinforce her beliefs by telling her how lovely she is, etc, like you already have.

Try to reinforce to her that it wasn't a personal thing, the girls were just not behaving very nicely, and lots of people like her.

for you though

was sort of doing cognitive behaviour stuff on her so as not to focus on it negatively , reminded her of all her friends at nursury.Just seemed to feel like a little loss of inocence abd so young to be able to articulate it.

my dd gets like that sometimes she is 3 and I find much more sensitive to these kinds of things that her peers.

I tell her everyday that she is lovely, clever, polite, kind etc and basically what you told your dd to do

it's sad isn't though, to see your children feel like that. Sometimes I think it bothers me more than her because of my own memories of childhood, I try to push them aside though so I don't colour her upbringing with demons from my own childhood